would you ever contemplate dating a hooker

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For me the idea of dating a hooker is repulsive. For one thing I'd never trust her, but to be bluntly honest the thought of knowing how many guys have fucked her would be an issue for me.

It amazes me how many of the hookers on here profess to having boyfriends. Those guys mustn't be alpha male types as I can't imagine dominant men allowing it.
 
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For me the idea of dating a hooker is repulsive. For one thing I'd never trust her, but to be bluntly honest the thought of knowing how many guys have fucked her would be an issue for me.

It amazes me how many of the hookers on here profess to having boyfriends. Those guys mustn't be alpha male types as I can't imagine dominant men allowing it.
For me I doubt it, only because I would not be happy with her having sex with other men but if I found out I was dating someone who used to be in this type of work but now not I would not judge her for it as I am a punter and if I was to judge her and look down on her then I should judge myself.
 
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For me the idea of dating a hooker is repulsive. For one thing I'd never trust her, but to be bluntly honest the thought of knowing how many guys have fucked her would be an issue for me.

It amazes me how many of the hookers on here profess to having boyfriends. Those guys mustn't be alpha male types as I can't imagine dominant men allowing it.
Interesting language - 'hooker', 'repulsive', 'allowing it'. Hardly the kind of opening gambit that encourages sensible debate IMO. It's as if you're saying 'here's my view. Which of you fuckers dares to disagree with me?
 
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I agree with mrbridger - very strange language to use to open up a sensible debate. Civvy girls may not be truthful about how many guys they have had. Escorts practise safe sex and get checked out. If she were working while dating then that would be something to talk about. To me it would just be her job. I wouldn't have an issue dating an escort
 
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As folks have said above, the question seems very closed.
I personally would have no problem dating someone who worked as an escort, they are, after all, flesh and blood like the rest of us.
Suspect a troll at work...
 
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Interesting language - 'hooker', 'repulsive', 'allowing it'. Hardly the kind of opening gambit that encourages sensible debate IMO. It's as if you're saying 'here's my view. Which of you fuckers dares to disagree with me?
Have to agree - for a first topic by a new member my immediate thought was 'Troll' but gave him the benefit of the doubt.
 
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I agree with mrbridger - very strange language to use to open up a sensible debate. Civvy girls may not be truthful about how many guys they have had. Escorts practise safe sex and get checked out. If she were working while dating then that would be something to talk about. To me it would just be her job. I wouldn't have an issue dating an escort
Previously I would have said no but now I'm not so sure. If I knew right from the start what she did for a living and she was open and honest about it then I could make an informed decision. If I started dating a girl and she later told me she was an escort I would probably struggle with it as I would wonder what else she might hide from me. It's a moot point for me though as the chances of any of these stunning women ever seeing me as boyfriend material are 'slim to none' :D
 
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I know this is a punter question but dating a prossie is like dating anyone else apart from she has sex at her job. The one thing most men find hardest to cope with is that when she has finished work and at home the male may want sex and she cant be arsed or is too tired or too sore. This can cause arguments as she is ok to fuck all those other men but not him and these are words I have heard used in relationships between a punter and a prossie. She gets all dressed up for clients but she is tired and doesn't for him. Its these little things that cause the most arguments in the relationships my female friends have. Some men feel rejected if the female doesn't want sex as they expect her to be like when then were punting with her and that's not reality its fantasy. Also seeing the sex kitten you met via punting laid out unwell sweating or vomiting can suddenly make the fantasy of it all disappear as they don't realise the female is acting at the bookings and is not going to want to act when out of work. I have seen that one ruin a few relationships between the two
 
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On the other side - how do punters feel if they discover that we are dating or single? I never reveal my relationship status, but when I first started I told a client I had a boyfriend and he got very abusive and accused me of being 'pimped'. Since then if people ask I'm always really vague about it - does it matter to you if she's dating someone or not?
 
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On the other side - how do punters feel if they discover that we are dating or single? I never reveal my relationship status, but when I first started I told a client I had a boyfriend and he got very abusive and accused me of being 'pimped'. Since then if people ask I'm always really vague about it - does it matter to you if she's dating someone or not?
Doesn't matter to me at all and, to be honest, it's none of my business. If she wants to share that information with me that's kind of nice and probably shows that she is relaxed in your company (either that or she is just politely making sure you won't ask her out on a date :D)
 
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#22
On the other side - how do punters feel if they discover that we are dating or single? I never reveal my relationship status, but when I first started I told a client I had a boyfriend and he got very abusive and accused me of being 'pimped'. Since then if people ask I'm always really vague about it - does it matter to you if she's dating someone or not?
What right did he have to say that?

Prat!!
 
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What right did he have to say that?

Prat!!
This was day two or three on the job and he was a nasty piece of work. Down to my own naiveté I lost a lot of money travelling to visit him and when I got there he didn't have a penny on him and tried to assault me and blackmail me and all sorts. Worst experience I've ever had whilst working, but it all started when I mentioned my safecall I needed to drop a text to to say id arrived was my boyfriend...
 
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On the other side - how do punters feel if they discover that we are dating or single? I never reveal my relationship status, but when I first started I told a client I had a boyfriend and he got very abusive and accused me of being 'pimped'. Since then if people ask I'm always really vague about it - does it matter to you if she's dating someone or not?
It's none of my business, being told would show a large degree of trust (which is great) however the actual answer makes no difference (I'm unlikely to be seen as a great catch...)
 
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At the end of the day i'm a person too and If i was to find a civvy guy i loved alot i'd give up escorting. I couldn't hurt someone i cared for. I've never told any of the guys i've dated im an escort straight up since i take time to trust people in general to open up to. I don't think i could entertain the idea of dating a punter it's like crossing boundaries.
 
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#26
If I fell for someone their occupation would be irrelevant.
Agree, its like the questtion, would you date a policewoman, or a traffic warden, or a politician, or to even further extremes, would you date a girl on the run from the law, a person with a criminal record, a person who is mean to her parents....

And the best answer to everyone of them is for me. It depends on the particular girl. I can say for certain there is one working girl I would date in a nano-second if she was up for it. But then the question falls to her of, would you date a punter. And it seems to be a case of "nope I wont date a punter". Or at the very least, this particular punter :)
 
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#27
The whole fucking how many people would not bother me just a job

Ultimately as cliché as it sounds it comes down to personality, attitude and how well you get on

I don't care where someone come from or what they do (cept drug dealers/users dont wanna kmow you at any point) as long as they are a decent person

I also try use a common sense approach this is my opinion and by giving myself these standards don't mean I tarnish others with a different opinion and that is

What right do I have to be a hypocrite?

I turn round and say oh no I couldn't date someone who has or does sell sexual services for a living
Then by that rhetoric shouldn't I be in the same boat "how could someone date someone who has or does pay for sexual Services"

I can't practice hypocrisy
 
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Agree, its like the questtion, would you date a policewoman, or a traffic warden, or a politician, or to even further extremes, would you date a girl on the run from the law, a person with a criminal record, a person who is mean to her parents....

And the best answer to everyone of them is for me. It depends on the particular girl. I can say for certain there is one working girl I would date in a nano-second if she was up for it. But then the question falls to her of, would you date a punter. And it seems to be a case of "nope I wont date a punter". Or at the very least, this particular punter :)
I would be very hesitant to date a punter, only because of the loss involved (and the expectation for me to be on form all the time) - but as you say, surely it depends on the person. If I met the right punter, sure! However they would have to be pretty darn special for me to give up their cash flow and let them into my personal world...
 
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I would be very hesitant to date a punter, only because of the loss involved (and the expectation for me to be on form all the time) - but as you say, surely it depends on the person. If I met the right punter, sure! However they would have to be pretty darn special for me to give up their cash flow and let them into my personal world...
I think you have definitely hit the nail on the head. So do you have any ideas of what the punter could do to possibly steer around that problem as it seems even if the girl is fully booked out all the times that she works. She will not lose that income from that guy. Which is absurd, but it seems to be the mentality of many WG's

So is there any tricks/tactics that the punter could do to allow the WG to get her to see him (i.e. friends at first, so am not talking about trying to get freebies here) where no money changes hands. (Saying tricks/tactics sounds so underhanded, but really I don't mean it underhanded and mean it nicely, but cannot think of a nice word for tricks/tactics).
 
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I would be very hesitant to date a punter, only because of the loss involved (and the expectation for me to be on form all the time) - but as you say, surely it depends on the person. If I met the right punter, sure! However they would have to be pretty darn special for me to give up their cash flow and let them into my personal world...

or be loaded ?
 
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I think you have definitely hit the nail on the head. So do you have any ideas of what the punter could do to possibly steer around that problem as it seems even if the girl is fully booked out all the times that she works. She will not lose that income from that guy. Which is absurd, but it seems to be the mentality of many WG's

So is there any tricks/tactics that the punter could do to allow the WG to get her to see him (i.e. friends at first, so am not talking about trying to get freebies here) where no money changes hands. (Saying tricks/tactics sounds so underhanded, but really I don't mean it underhanded and mean it nicely, but cannot think of a nice word for tricks/tactics).
Honestly, you'd just need to be my "type" and not push for it. I could see sessions going longer and longer over the time until they become something else? I would want to be friends with them even less - I have plenty of friends. Partners are special.
 
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Honestly, you'd just need to be my "type" and not push for it. I could see sessions going longer and longer over the time until they become something else? I would want to be friends with them even less - I have plenty of friends. Partners are special.
But like you said yourself, even if the guy was your type you wouldn't want to
give up their cash flow
Which is the ultimate hurdle that needs to be overcome.....somehow.
 
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But like you said yourself, even if the guy was your type you wouldn't want to


Which is the ultimate hurdle that needs to be overcome.....somehow.
Yes, but it's simply about being my type and having chemistry. If I can't stop thinking about you or wanting to see you then chances are you could see me in my personal life. If you're just a nice chap and pretty, that's not enough to, as I say, give up a chunk of my income. A real connection? That can be priceless.
 
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#37
I would have no issue with it personally. Think most people that have issues with it are worried about, what if someone finds out?

Would date a porn star as well if she'll have me.
 
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#38
If I fell for someone their occupation would be irrelevant.

Nobody chooses love, it picks each man or woman as it will.

Besides I'm hardly one to judge on how many people someone has shagged when I'm prolific in this pastime.

In answer to your question, yes I would.
Exactly what I was going to say.

Who goes out saying, "right I am going to find and date a doctor"?
 
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#39
For me the idea of dating a hooker is repulsive. For one thing I'd never trust her, but to be bluntly honest the thought of knowing how many guys have fucked her would be an issue for me.

It amazes me how many of the hookers on here profess to having boyfriends. Those guys mustn't be alpha male types as I can't imagine dominant men allowing it.
Being an alpha male is surely about confidence not control
 
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For me the idea of dating a hooker is repulsive. For one thing I'd never trust her, but to be bluntly honest the thought of knowing how many guys have fucked her would be an issue for me.

It amazes me how many of the hookers on here profess to having boyfriends. Those guys mustn't be alpha male types as I can't imagine dominant men allowing it.
Your attitude is repulsive and yes, I have been told beforehand for feeding the trolls which I think you are. You're either bored or just sad or both.
 
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#44
Old habits 'Diehard' I think. We do have some history on UKP, he's a man of strongly held views and entrenched opinions but I wouldn't exactly call him a troll. I genuinely think he can't understand why not everybody sees the world the same way he does.
Being a diehard misogynist (or at least harbouring a bitter attitude towards prostitutes), you mean...?
 
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#45
Interesting language - 'hooker', 'repulsive', 'allowing it'. Hardly the kind of opening gambit that encourages sensible debate IMO. It's as if you're saying 'here's my view. Which of you fuckers dares to disagree with me?
Could not agree more, he knows from UKP that admin did not want that kind of language and attitude on here as its for punters and girls to join in and that does look like a post that aims to get up any wg's back:timeout:
 
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#46
On the other side - how do punters feel if they discover that we are dating or single? I never reveal my relationship status, but when I first started I told a client I had a boyfriend and he got very abusive and accused me of being 'pimped'. Since then if people ask I'm always really vague about it - does it matter to you if she's dating someone or not?
None of my business and I never ask, and it makes no difference at all as far as I'm concerned. I was with a wg last night who sometimes mentions her boyfriend whenever we're having a chat - again doesn't bother me in the slightest.

It's never going to happen due to my circumstances but since I've started punting my opinion has swayed from not a chance (mostly for the reasons Dani mentions) to why not. Although that's easy to say as it's all theoretical anyway.
 
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#47
I have met a couple of escorts who, if we had met under different circumstances, I would have been very happy to form a relationship with. I no longer buy into the stereotypes ; either those of the mass media or more hard nosed punters , about what a WG is as a person - all sorts get into it and you have to take each individual as you find them.

If an escort was comfortable with her work I would not mind her continuing when we were in a relationship.My main concerns would be the safety aspect of the job.Their having sex with others would not massively bother me as I could accept it as her job and for me sex has not been a priority in serious emotional relationships.The last part of this probably separates me from many others, and maybe less sexually motivated men make better partners for escorts ; they are less fussed about her ' promiscuity ' and will also give her a break from sex out of work hours.From reading SAAFE I am aware of a fair few cases that closely match this model.

My opinion of her and respect for her would in no way be diminished by her working as a escort , but I would not want friends of family to know about it ; just as I would be very reticent for them to learn that I see prostitutes even though I feel no moral dilemma or sense of degradation in doing so.I am worried by the general way of thinking and reaction even though it does not match the ' reality ' that I have personally experienced.

Finally , I believe it would be a better start to the relationship if we met outside of work rather than through an actual booking as the dynamics of a booking can be complicated, emotionally charged and easily misinterpreted , and it is unwise to build on unsteady foundations.
 
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Oh Yeah ! I would love to have my reg as as an "un-paid date" :D.

Mind you, I'd need to win the lottery so she only saw other guys that she really, REALLY liked :unknown:
 
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