Who Are You .

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Should punters and wg's
Use the same names as they use on other sites eg UKP:music:
And Saafe:coolgirl:
So they can not be two faced .
 
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My user name is different to UKP, not a secret though really, just always use different names in different places.

If anyone needs to know use PM, that way I control the information spread.

Not sure that makes any sense at all but most of my friends already know who I am on both.
 
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So whats your point?

People can have different online names for different sites if they want.infact id actively encourage it for security reasons.
 
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Should punters and wg's
Use the same names as they use on other sites eg UKP:music:
And Saafe:coolgirl:
So they can not be two faced .
They can use different nicks as it stands so its up to the poster but its out of order in my view if they are being two faced which to me shows a poster without the courage to be honest about what they really believe.

I use the same nick on all three punting forums I am a member of, though I no longer post on one of them and have never thought of doing otherwise. I post what I believe irrespective of what others might think.
 
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So whats your point?

People can have different online names for different sites if they want.infact id actively encourage it for security reasons.
So your not saying who you are :P
For security reasons :lol:
But asked me who I was :sarcastic:
These are names on a punting site
As long as you don't use your real name followed by your date of birth you should be okay :rolleyes:
 
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They can use different nicks as it stands so its up to the poster but its out of order in my view if they are being two faced which to me shows a poster without the courage to be honest about what they really believe.
This is exactly what I meant
Nice one smiths:drinks:

I use the same nick on all three punting forums I am a member of, though I no longer post on one of them and have never thought of doing otherwise. I post what I believe irrespective of what others might think.

This is exactly my thoughts
Well done Smiths:drinks:
Although I do post on a risk to reward basis:D
 
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I'm the same nick on ukp after Admin kindly reset my password after a break from punting and I forgot it and the email address I joined up with :dash:. I'm a member of one other forum and use a different name but not to be two faced, I'm just me. I do this punting lark purely for my own fun, not to play silly games.
 
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I've used a different username here for no other reason than I don't particularly like the nick I chose on UKP.

Also, I only really use UKP for factual based issues, this site feels a bit more personality based.
 
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I think we should only post what we believe and have the conviction to stand behind .
So why would we need different nicks
My persona on here is the same as ukp but a little softer
The words may be different but the message would remain the same
All in the name of Fun ...
 
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I cant think of a single reason why someone would be one name on one forum and a different name on another. 'Im Chloe everywhere, some places with the Kisses, some without, I think Im Chloe K on one. The only place Im not is on fetlife because Kisses isnt exactly a dominant name is it and I dont want to be taken for a sub and get endless messages from male dominants

Actually thats not true, Im a different name on saafe because I want somewhere safe to rant without being judged for it...there, I guess thats a reason lol. I still rant in other places sometimes under the Chloe banner :P
 
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Im a different name on saafe because I want somewhere safe to rant without being judged for it
Shortened version on UKP evidently of just 'Butter' .... same as Chloe though as I have a different name on Saafe as I am aware a lot of clients are on there checking what has been said. So of course if a safety matter has been raised the last thing any of us want is to be at risk from the perpetrator, not that in all honestly I use or browse it often anymore.
 
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SAAFE is used a lot for reports of violence and so on - why would I immediately make myself a target by effectively losing the anonymity (of sorts) that I have on there to protect me when making these reports? UKP is not so much about protection, but SAAFE I went to before I was even 18 and in a harrowing situation looking for advice and support.. Not sure why choosing not to merge those directly makes me dishonest or anything? I don't go on there to promote my business lmao.

That being said it's fairly obvious who I am, I've had a lot of issues with clients taking some weird form of enjoyment from reading my posts on there and literally getting off on my crappy backstory, it's so strange. I post here so people can get to know my genuine personality, I post there (not as much anymore) to get support and make any necessary reports. Two separate functions. Whereas UKP and UKE as far as I can see serve a very similar purpose, though I still don't expect people to use the same usernames - do what you want!

I also take issue with the claims that escorts on this site are any more honest - I've already noticed people who I know on both sites have outright contradicted themselves on threads of the same subject. That's how it's going to be - on SAAFE you'll get a negative slant because we go there to offload and on here you'll get a more positive and glammed up bias where very few SPs are prepared to be totally honest because it may genuinely damage them in the views of clients. I have no judgement towards these women as I see why it's seen as necessary but I do have to laugh a bit at the people on here that think this site is the perfect happy medium of honesty. ;)

Anyway to be more concise: can't we have one aspect of ourselves that you don't want access to? SAAFE is for safety and it's a place to vent, very few people want that associated so directly with their happy go lucky work personas.
 
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I have sometimes out of pure boredom:rolleyes:
Has a look at saafe and agree about the safety issue thing .
But the question section and blather section can some times be rather scathing of punters .
I.E. should a punter expect 25 minutes of sex in a 30 minutes booking :dance:
No :scare:
He should expect 30 minutes of fun in a 30 minute booking .:hi:
 
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We deserve a place where we can moan about you anonymously - some of the stuff said about undeserving women on UKP is literally vomit inducing and not only is that personal but also affects somebody's income, whereas me just having a general moan about eg someone being kind of horrible to me or whatever is absolutely harmless. You have your space so let us have ours, you're not entitled to anything beyond the time you pay for - everything else we do with our time is up to us up until the point we are outting people which isn't even what you're complaining about.
 
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#25
I've used a different username here for no other reason than I don't particularly like the nick I chose on UKP.

Also, I only really use UKP for factual based issues, this site feels a bit more personality based.
Agreed, my UKP username is a bit of a mouthful (lol).

This one is the name I use when I meet the girls. Seems to make sense to me.

My opinions are still my opinions, wherever they are expressed.
 
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I'm not complaining about anything ...
Just getting your views on the more open and fun platform uke
Because we could not ask these question before and get the girls to give their view ..
This is what I like about this forum
We can talk to you and vis versa
It's not you and us ...
It's just us :rose:
 
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It never really occurred to me to use another nic than the one I use on UKP.

However I can see the appeal of a (pretend) anti fluffy wanting to change his name on here so he can flirt to his hearts content.

Not for me but good luck to anyone who wishes to do so.
 
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There's definitely a safety aspect of saafe that warrants anonymity. I completely understand that and would expect most WGs to use a different name on it.

The moaning is less critical but every profession needs a chance to moan about their customers. Gets me down a bit when I read it though :(
 
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I'm the same on here as I am on UKP but as I don't particularly like 99% of what is posted on UKP I don't use it now this site came along... I use a different name of punternet but only because as the time I felt I didn't want people connecting my to profiles but now I have no problem with it at all and if anyone cares(which I'm sure they don't) I'm happy to tell anyone... My AW name is different but, as UKP was used for reviews and not booking escorts, that made sense but it's now blindingly obvious to anyone who wants me to still put an AW booking form in as well as confirm on here what my username is. TBH, I'm not really bothered.. I am who I am and I'm the same on whichever forum I post on.. I couldn't be bothered with separate usernames for separate personas. I do however agree that WG should have a place like saafe to vent as I'm sure they encounter things in there life they need to get out, I'm sure not all punters are as friendly as those on here appear to be.
 
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The biggest difference is also, that you guys are still anonymous - same username on both or not. We are not. Many of you know where we live, have our phone numbers and access to us online. It's not even close to the same, sorry.

And as others have said, we deserve a place where we can complain about work without it coming back to haunt us as it has with many, myself included.
 
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I remember when I joined UKP last year Admin on there advised punters not to use the same nickname they use on AW. It was something about avoiding retaliation from escorts if you make negative reviews, and avoiding outings. I'm sure there are many threads on UKP about it.

Anyway when I joined here I assumed it was a similar site to UKP, and hence setup a different nickname.
 
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I'm the same on here as I am on UKP but as I don't particularly like 99% of what is posted on UKP I don't use it now this site came along... I use a different name of punternet but only because as the time I felt I didn't want people connecting my to profiles but now I have no problem with it at all and if anyone cares(which I'm sure they don't) I'm happy to tell anyone... My AW name is different but, as UKP was used for reviews and not booking escorts, that made sense but it's now blindingly obvious to anyone who wants me to still put an AW booking form in as well as confirm on here what my username is. TBH, I'm not really bothered.. I am who I am and I'm the same on whichever forum I post on.. I couldn't be bothered with separate usernames for separate personas. I do however agree that WG should have a place like saafe to vent as I'm sure they encounter things in there life they need to get out, I'm sure not all punters are as friendly as those on here appear to be.
Totally agree:drinks:
 
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I remember when I joined UKP last year Admin on there advised punters not to use the same nickname they use on AW. It was something about avoiding retaliation from escorts if you make negative reviews, and avoiding outings. I'm sure there are many threads on UKP about it.

Anyway when I joined here I assumed it was a similar site to UKP, and hence setup a different nickname.
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I can understand punters wanting one name on here and another on UKP. On here if they write a review it is likely to be quite flowery n its prose and on UKP it may be much more honest and blunt which could cause hassle for them on here
I use my name everywhere simply because I wont say anything different anywhere be it here UKP, Saafe or mumsnet. I tend to speak as I find as whilst some of my posts may be offputting for some I would sooner be blunt and honest and I am sure some feel the same way and want to be able to post honestly but don't want their posts associated with their AW profiles in case it does put punters off
 
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It never really occurred to me to use another nic than the one I use on UKP.

However I can see the appeal of a (pretend) anti fluffy wanting to change his name on here so he can flirt to his hearts content.

Not for me but good luck to anyone who wishes to do so.
Indeed so can I, where I see this matters is if on here they moan about UKP despite not moaning about it on UKP itself. That's two faced in my book.
 
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I can understand punters wanting one name on here and another on UKP. On here if they write a review it is likely to be quite flowery n its prose and on UKP it may be much more honest and blunt which could cause hassle for them on here
I use my name everywhere simply because I wont say anything different anywhere be it here UKP, Saafe or mumsnet. I tend to speak as I find as whilst some of my posts may be offputting for some I would sooner be blunt and honest and I am sure some feel the same way and want to be able to post honestly but don't want their posts associated with their AW profiles in case it does put punters off
I hope that wont be the case and that punters will review just the same on UKE as they did on UKP, I certainly would if I did a review on here.
 
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I'm rangersburd on ukp but my email got banned after a sectarian slanging match on a car racing forum, so that why never used it here

never have any intention of even so much as looking at saafe never mind join it

I'm lolo on escort scotland
 
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I use two different forum IDs on different places (one my working name, one not), but on all it's plain to see very easily who I am.
 
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All I can think of when I read the title is that mental girl years back on Big Brother ...... Nikki Grahame 'WHO ARE YOU?'

........................................... sorry but had to :dash:
 
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The posts by IndigoRose and Phoebe mirror my own thoughts very closely as regards SAAFE ; everything in them I agree with.For many escorts , particularly those who do not have real life escort friends , it is massively important to have a platform where they can speak openly and honestly about their working lives.When I think of the site name SAAFE ( safe ) I also think of sanctuary ; a place where they do not have to be on guard or worry about their working image , where they can freely discuss whatever needs discussing about the business.
As the girls have said there is no reason why it should be seen as dishonest .Would others with jobs so reliant on client relationships like that they were subject to 24/7 scrutiny from their clientele ?
( Most ) people are multi faceted and some of these facets are more suitable for showing in certain situations and settings rather than others.They are all a part of the whole , and their existence does not equal deceit.Some are best kept separate.
People are entitled to privacy if they so choose and the choice to separate aspects of their lives , as should be obvious to everyone on here ; if we were all totally open this would be on Facebook !
Would you demand that you read someones diary ?

An escort using UKE or SAAFE , or a punter using UKE and SAAFE , can be honest on both but vary their language or what topics they are comfortable discussing based on their audience ; which is perfectly fair IMO .

With a big question mark next to my gender ambiguous name I must be Public Enemy Number One based on this.I have totally different names on UKE , UKP , Adultwork etc .The Adultwork difference is for discretion purposes , the UKE one is partially for the same reason , partly because it helps me to mentally separate the two and also simply on the whim that I liked the name Aurora.
My style and views are the same on both ; I do not lie.I do not see myself as being either a 'Fluffy' or at the other end of the spectrum, and I am consistent in that approach. There are things I have put on UKP that I would not put on UKE and vice versa ; that is one of the reasons that the two sites exist.
Some of what I have written on UKP is more intended and better suited to a punter audience ( as many escorts will feel in reverse about some of their SAAFE postings ) ; non of that equal deceit ; just an appropriate place for certain topics and language.

This is a middle ground ; it is not meant to encompass everything on UKP and SAAFE.
 
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The posts by IndigoRose and Phoebe mirror my own thoughts very closely as regards SAAFE ; everything in them I agree with.For many escorts , particularly those who do not have real life escort friends , it is massively important to have a platform where they can speak openly and honestly about their working lives.When I think of the site name SAAFE ( safe ) I also think of sanctuary ; a place where they do not have to be on guard or worry about their working image , where they can freely discuss whatever needs discussing about the business.
Unfortunately this doesn't really happen for us though. Some people scrutinise SAAFE and once they figure out who a girl is then judge her based on what they see/monitor her postings etc. I understand what we do is very public - for instance when I was spotted by a client in Pets at Home lol but we should be allowed a sanctuary and not judged or 'stalked' for lack of a better word in a place where we need to share with those who deal with the same stresses and sometimes outright abuse that we have to deal with on a daily basis.

Of course it is an open forum, but if you have to read it then put it in perspective and try to understand why we need to rant sometimes. Most of us here have talked about how much we love our jobs, but sometimes it is just shit like any other job and can be very dangerous... so we complain to our colleagues, like anyone else would do! :)
 
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I'm the same on here as I am on UKP but as I don't particularly like 99% of what is posted on UKP I don't use it now this site came along... I use a different name of punternet but only because as the time I felt I didn't want people connecting my to profiles but now I have no problem with it at all and if anyone cares(which I'm sure they don't) I'm happy to tell anyone... My AW name is different but, as UKP was used for reviews and not booking escorts, that made sense but it's now blindingly obvious to anyone who wants me to still put an AW booking form in as well as confirm on here what my username is. TBH, I'm not really bothered.. I am who I am and I'm the same on whichever forum I post on.. I couldn't be bothered with separate usernames for separate personas. I do however agree that WG should have a place like saafe to vent as I'm sure they encounter things in there life they need to get out, I'm sure not all punters are as friendly as those on here appear to be.
Which 1% do you like on Ukp then because that's just fucking lunacy that you dislike 99% .....it is and still is a very honest site that does not suffer fools lightly....yes you have the old school but even I learn off them and I am no spring chicken.
To be honest it's saved me and many others so much money & time and you know what most of the best & honest Wg,s are on here posting and loving it :hi:
 
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