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jonboy

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In the week or so that this site has been up I am gaining an ever growing list of ladies I want to spend 2016 getting to meet.
The question is do I let them know who I am on here when I get to meet them?
 
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I'd be interested to know if I met somebody from here but it wouldn't be necessary. If anybody wrote a review of the meet and the girl was a member then your cover would be blown!
 
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Don't see the problem personally and I'm sure there will be a lot of meetings arranged through this site.
Only time it's likely to be an issue is after a bad punt and the ensuing negative review. :diablo:

So I'm guessing that meetings will only be made where there is a very high likelihood that it will be a positive.

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I will definitely say I am a poster on here but not say who. Lots of lovely ladies on here, my nether regions are tingling
 
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It's ok when the booking ends but not before or during the booking as it has in the past been used to blackmail to get services not on offer. I'm a member on .... If you don't do this I'll leave a negative review everywhere. I have had it done to me when I first started and told him to write what he wants as the booking was now over and he can bugger off as I won't cross my boundaries. It can also be taken that way even if you don't mean it that way. Best to just say before you leave "by the way I like your posts on UKE. I'm a member there too
 
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It's a tough one. Personally, I'd rather not know beforehand, but it might be nice to know afterwards - if you click. If you don't it might be safer to part ways being none the wiser.
I'd be interested to know if I met somebody from here but it wouldn't be necessary. If anybody wrote a review of the meet and the girl was a member then your cover would be blown!
Words of wisdom from both ladies.Safest to remain incognito until you have tested the waters in person ; then go for it if you feel comfortable with her.The issue of reviewing would be difficult and messy if you had identified yourself beforehand but ended up having a poor experience about which you felt the need to post a negative review.
 
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It's ok when the booking ends but not before or during the booking as it has in the past been used to blackmail to get services not on offer. I'm a member on .... If you don't do this I'll leave a negative review everywhere. I have had it done to me when I first started and told him to write what he wants as the booking was now over and he can bugger off as I won't cross my boundaries. It can also be taken that way even if you don't mean it that way. Best to just say before you leave "by the way I like your posts on UKE. I'm a member there too
That's not really acceptable behaviour pre or post UKE.

Anybody making threats like that need to be outed. It will now be easier for you to do that.

I'm pretty sure there is a lot of PM ing going off arranging meets on here already. :D
 
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I made it clear to Erica who I was before we met up. I deliberately had a public conversation with her on here beforehand as I think you can get a good sense of who you're dealing with in that way - if the online banter is good, you get a sense of someone you're going to get on with, which is a massive benefit of this site and shouldn't be underestimated.

Dani, I get the impression you're also scrupulously honest on here (and on AW) so anyone who wants to meet you will know exactly what kind of person you are and how you like to be treated.

That dialogue beforehand may or may not be visible to other members, but I think it goes a long way to avoiding disappointment on either side.
 
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I agree with Dani, I've also had a situation where someone heavily hinted they were a member of a forum, but I couldn't be sure, and combined with their approach to the booking it all made me very apprehensive - and thus affected how I was in the booking.

The only exception to this has been someone I met at a forum social, with whom I'd built up a rapport, and who made a straightforward booking. A very enjoyable time was had which we both look back on with a warm smile.
 
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It's ok when the booking ends but not before or during the booking as it has in the past been used to blackmail to get services not on offer. I'm a member on .... If you don't do this I'll leave a negative review everywhere. I have had it done to me when I first started and told him to write what he wants as the booking was now over and he can bugger off as I won't cross my boundaries. It can also be taken that way even if you don't mean it that way. Best to just say before you leave "by the way I like your posts on UKE. I'm a member there too
I remember a thread on UKP in the last few months where a member indirectly suggested trying this but under the guise of ' I will write you a glowing review ...' .To be fair the majority of members on there are not as bad as a lot of girls think ; the guy was universally condemned as a blackmailer and he was very quick to change his tune, saying that it was all hypothetical and his meaning had been misunderstood.
 
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Probably yes but after that one guy I have always preferred not to know beforehand. That way I can relax and enjoy the booking rather than worrying what he might put in a review. Not knowing means I act the same as I would with anyone because if you do know even if you don't realise it subconsciously you are going to be acting different and trying to do everything right so you don't get a negative rather than just relaxing and going with the flow. It's different seeing someone the second time knowing they are a member as you have already met and know them a little
 
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Understand what you are saying Dani, but I think the point here is that you can get a feel for the person from their comments, reviews, likes etc etc rather than some meaningless feedback comments on AW. You're more likely to be able to decide if you want to go ahead with a booking with all this info.

Same applies to guys looking for girls. I've certainly seen more personalities that I could warm to on here and girls that I'd like to meet as a result of how they come across rather than just looks alone.
 
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Probably yes but after that one guy I have always preferred not to know beforehand. That way I can relax and enjoy the booking rather than worrying what he might put in a review. Not knowing means I act the same as I would with anyone because if you do know even if you don't realise it subconsciously you are going to be acting different and trying to do everything right so you don't get a negative rather than just relaxing and going with the flow. It's different seeing someone the second time knowing they are a member as you have already met and know them a little
I think that would be the best course , maybe discuss UKE during the apres -sex chat if all has gone well.Of course , any customer could be a member of a punting forum , whether they reveal it or not , but I understand what you are meaning.

UKE is only in its infancy.I am very much enjoying what the site has to offer so far but there are a lot of tricky topics yet to be fully addressed, and this thread may well be the start of them.Is booking directly through UKE unwise for the reasons described in this thread , and what about the posting of reviews on here ; would escorts prefer that they were kept to UKP ?
 
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I think that would be the best course , maybe discuss UKE during the apres -sex chat if all has gone well.Of course , any customer could be a member of a punting forum , whether they reveal it or not , but I understand what you are meaning.

UKE is only in its infancy.I am very much enjoying what the site has to offer so far but there are a lot of tricky topics yet to be fully addressed, and this thread may well be the start of them.Is booking directly through UKE unwise for the reasons described in this thread , and what about the posting of reviews on here ; would escorts prefer that they were kept to UKP ?
Personally I'd like to see them kept to UKP. Mainly because I have seen the arguments that can break out over a negative review and we don't really want those arguments on here as you get the girl disagree then some guys who have seen her start arguing and it puts people off posting an honest review however I am sure Admin has everything covered although I see the review sections have gone now so no idea what that means. I'm not sure reviews thrown in with general chat will work in the long run as they will get lost amongst the chat and flirting
 
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jonboy

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Think Kay, Dani and Ruth make excellent points about how it may be perceived, I certainly have no intention of ever trying to blackmail a WG.
It seems best not to mention until after the first meeting (if at all) unless first contact made through UKE (in which case cover is pretty much blown)
 
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Personally I'd like to see them kept to UKP. Mainly because I have seen the arguments that can break out over a negative review and we don't really want those arguments on here as you get the girl disagree then some guys who have seen her start arguing and it puts people off posting an honest review however I am sure Admin has everything covered although I see the review sections have gone now so no idea what that means. I'm not sure reviews thrown in with general chat will work in the long run as they will get lost amongst the chat and flirting
The atmosphere on here generally seems really good so I suspect that most of the reviews on here will be positive (more like 'recommendations') with any negatives not mentioned but maybe raised on UKP instead :unknown: The tricky bit is that I suspect a lot of arrangements/bookings will be made on here over time and in those cases I can't see how the client could be anonymous. On the plus side there might be more discussion about expectations and 'boundaries' before hand so if both parties agree these in detail there is more chance of a good outcome anyway. Time will tell though.
 
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Hmmm depends how you conduct yourself online

If you are all nice here but deep down you know your a bit of a shit , your onto a lost cause

I don't have business cards with online credentials but I'm the same in person as here

So if you think I'm a tosser online put the brakes on if I try and book ya as you prob won't like me in persn
 
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Just read other posts in the context of "don't you know who I am"

If anyone ever does that your a massive tool and I don't like you
 
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As others have said I think it remains to be seen how this will pan out.

Firstly, right now pretty much all punters here also post on UKP (myself excluded for obvious reasons) and I assume most would review over there - so I expect many will want to keep a completely separate username over there in case they want to post a negative review of someone they meet here. So they will not necessarily want to contact someone directly here with their UKE name. I think that will probably be the default behaviour although it won't take too long for people to tie up who is who. And maybe that's the way it's going to remain for the long run.

At the end of the day - at least in my experience - the majority of the negative reviews on UKP are for WGs who are either dishonest about their profiles (b&s or not updating pics / inaccurate likes etc) or who are just jaded and not offering decent service.

I always try to review honestly and fairly - 0ut of 29 reviews "over there" I had 26 positive, 2 negs and 1 neutral - unless I'm ripped off or otherwise mistreated I'm rarely unkind and don't see a good reason to be. I turn up to each punt with a smile on my face, scrupulously clean, and taking a serious interest in both of us having a good time which I'm sure plays a large part in my having so few negative experiences punting. I do always try to be objective - not all punters have the same taste so I do feel I should call out things that other punters might have issues with.

I would hope that the ladies who have signed up here do not fall into any of the above categories so I would expect to see less in the way of negative reviews and hopefully no disputes about constructive criticism but then again I'm an idealist. :angelgirl:
 
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One of my regs knows who I am on various forums and it doesn't concern her one bit. She's very good indeed and let's her fucking and sucking do the talking. I've never quite understood why a girl would be concerned if she's good at what she does :unknown:

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One of my regs knows who I am on various forums and it doesn't concern her one bit. She's very good indeed and let's her fucking and sucking do the talking. I've never quite understood why a girl would be concerned if she's good at what she does :unknown:

tcm
Well, I would hope all escorts would be concerned if they are good at what they do and would not want to be shite? I would hope most realise that every punter they are seeing is a potential reviewer - whether on UKP/UKE or other sites. It's the same with any customer facing job - if you work in a restaurant and give shit service to a customer, don't be surprised if you get some "constructive criticism" via TripAdvisor....and in turn your manager. :unknown: If you don't like the idea of always being reviewed, try a different job. Good luck with that by the way because pretty much anytime you get paid for anything you can be pretty sure someone somewhere is measuring your performance.
 
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One of my regs knows who I am on various forums and it doesn't concern her one bit. She's very good indeed and let's her fucking and sucking do the talking. I've never quite understood why a girl would be concerned if she's good at what she does :unknown:

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Some interesting views on this thread. I'd have personally thought that a bit of chat on here might help break the ice before a meet. I'd never even think about mentioning I was a member of a forum before a meet unless I'd had some interaction with a WG on-line. Then again blackmail is not something that is in my nature! Personally I've never given I negative review anyway, fortunately I've yet to have a bad experience. I think I'd be vary uncomfortable leaving a bad review even on UKP anyway. I'd be very conscious that a bad review could potentially affect a girls income, and to do that when they've maybe just had a bad day at the office is not something that would sit comfortably. I think I'd prefer to give constructive criticism via text/email if it ever happened. Obviously violence/scam/theft/bait and switch/being offered bareback for extra would be another matter.
 
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I once made the mistake of mentioning that I'd read some good reviews of a girl on UKP in our final voice-call prior to our first meeting. I could hear a noticeable change in her voice and she was extremely nervous at the start of the meet, although about ten minutes in she visibly relaxed. As the phone call was probably her final safety check I was probably lucky she still agreed to see me. I was genuinely quoting UKP to show her how much I was looking forward to meeting her, not to put any leverage on her to deliver and in a text afterwards she apologised for her initial attitude (even though there was no need). Funny how things turn out, as we have now moved very far from this initial level of mistrust.
 
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I once made the mistake of mentioning that I'd read some good reviews of a girl on UKP in our final voice-call prior to our first meeting. I could hear a noticeable change in her voice and she was extremely nervous at the start of the meet, although about ten minutes in she notably relaxed. As the phone call was probably her final safety check I was probably lucky she still agreed to see me. I was genuinely quoting UKP to show her how much I was looking forward to meeting her, not to put any leverage on her to deliver and in a text afterwards she apologised for her initial attitude (even though there was no need). Funny how things turn out, as we have now moved very far from this initial level of mistrust.
On the other hand I've had people mention UKP, and with enough proof that they were a member, who didn't follow through on the day. I've also had members of other forums really play around for years with me, never making it to a booking, whilst at the same time hoodwinking members into thinking that he was new and inexperienced.

It's a difficult one, because whilst you are genuine there are other members who won't behave in the same way that you do.
 
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She's very good indeed and let's her fucking and sucking do the talking. I've never quite understood why a girl would be concerned if she's good at what she does :unknown:
The good service provider has nothing to fear because even on the off chance someone for what ever reasons trys to harm their reputation the punters that have seen her Will voice their positive experiences with her :angelgirl:
 
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A number of the parlour and agency girls have asked ask me to do them a review on a couple of other sites.
I really don't mind and it has never ever got me any extra privileges, discount or priority above any other punter.

Usually, I've just had a good time and don't mind spreading the knowledge.
It's a conversation that sometimes happens at the end of a punt, usually during shower time.

I've currently got three reviews on hold, that I won't put up until I have seen each girl a few more times.
 
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In general it's better not to and my AW name is different for that reason. I did wonder whether to use a different name on here to UKP but so many were using the same it just seems the best way to go.
I did arrange a booking with a very well reviewed girl on UKP and was really surprised when she said she was actually a bit nervous when normally she is not. So can see where Dani is coming from with her comments. So I think in future I would only tell a girl if it helped making the booking through this site.
It's really worrying to hear the stories of punters trying to blackmail girls with good reviews on UKP, the girls really should tell admin on that site if that happens to them. It's not acceptable and needs to be stamped out. Especially if they are pushing for services not normally offered or even worse generally unacceptable services ie BB.
 
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In the week or so that this site has been up I am gaining an ever growing list of ladies I want to spend 2016 getting to meet.
The question is do I let them know who I am on here when I get to meet them?
If I punted with any forum WGs which I wont be doing knowingly I nowadays wouldn't mention I post on here, if they work out it later if I do a review or other forum feedback then thats the way it is. The reason is I wish to punt anonymously but still post on forums.

Too many nutters about sadly, this wasn't my view in the past but things have moved on for the worst in this regard in my observations and from talking to some punters.
 
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Too many nutters about sadly, this wasn't my view in the past but things have moved on for the worst in this regard in my observations and from talking to some punters.
This is why I am not posting reviews. Some nutter contacting girls I had seen.....
I cannot be bothered changing my profile name...
 
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I'd like a booking to be made THROUGH here so I have an idea of who is coming over! I'd much rather know beforehand??
IMO, this works better. On UKE, the rapport is easier to establish, and if through private conversation a booking is agreed, then you're already "known" to the WG.

The respect should be two-way during a booking, so should the attitude and professionalism.

AW will still exist, for now, and maybe still be a preferred route for some.
 
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In the week or so that this site has been up I am gaining an ever growing list of ladies I want to spend 2016 getting to meet.
The question is do I let them know who I am on here when I get to meet them?
Up to you totally, for me I would rather they not know because if you ever posted something they don't like there could be revenge tactics so I would rather just not get in to all as cannot be bothered with more crap.
 
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Well, I would hope all escorts would be concerned if they are good at what they do and would not want to be shite? I would hope most realise that every punter they are seeing is a potential reviewer - whether on UKP/UKE or other sites. It's the same with any customer facing job - if you work in a restaurant and give shit service to a customer, don't be surprised if you get some "constructive criticism" via TripAdvisor....and in turn your manager. :unknown: If you don't like the idea of always being reviewed, try a different job. Good luck with that by the way because pretty much anytime you get paid for anything you can be pretty sure someone somewhere is measuring your performance.
I think you and me both may have misread tcm's post. I originally thought the same as you but I assume tcm meant that 'if a WG is good at her job she needn't be concerned (about reviews on forums etc') :unknown:rather than being concerned about if she is any good or not.
 
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Personally I wouldn't, I don't discuss UKP with any girl & I have no intention of changing that for UKE.

Discretion is paramount on both sides so the least amount of personal information both sides have from the outset the better in my opinion.
Absolutely and now more so than ever with low lifes trying to out WGs and punters as UKP has sadly shown.
 
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That's a separate matter altogether. Your real identity vs UKP/UKE identity should not have any links should they?? That is unless you share too much personal info with the WG.
 
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OK I will break cover... sorry chaps I kept this from you and my mates at UKP but I'm David Cameron. I just got sick and tired of fucking dead pig heads so I thought I'd try a live female for once. Tired of Sam's dead fish impersonation too.

I thought I might as well come clean since I signed the Snoopers' Charter the other day it would all come out anyway.
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OK I will break cover... sorry chaps I kept this from you and my mates at UKP but I'm David Cameron. I just got sick and tired of fucking dead pig heads so I thought I'd try a live female for once. Tired of Sam's dead fish impersonation too.

I thought I might as well come clean since I signed the Snoopers' Charter the other day it would all come out anyway.
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Ah we've met then! I really did have to double take at the David Cameron look a like answering the door one time :D
 
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It makes no difference in how I recieve or treat someone other than you have a common ground already which is a huge icebreaker.
I agree. I've made bookings with girls on forums before and hopefully will do so again. I've already messaged a girl on here to let me know when she's touring the north west because I like her posting style / attitude and have checked her profile / pictures out ( great ass, looking forward to seeing it in person :P) It breaks the ice and means you hit the ground running when you do meet. I also see it as a bit of foreplay / banter.
The thought of blackmailing a girl with a less than favourable review would never even enter my head. I hope it helps the girl relax knowing as that I'm ok and not a weirdo ( well, not much of one anyway :D)
 
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I never reveal my UKPUNTING handle or that I am signed up to UKE. For safety and to keep my identity secure. I notice some punters just do it to score some fluffy brownie points with working girls.
 
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This site has now been in existence for a few months and many bookings have been made because of it , so it might be worth updating this thread.As well as the original question it would be interesting to know how punters have preferred to book escorts who they have been attracted to on UKE , whether they have revealed their UKE identities and how it worked out ie. the benefits of anonymity or openness as regards UKE.Escorts opinions and experiences on all of these things from their own perspective are equally desirable .
 
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