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i havent checked who has it in their profile but i know at least 2 have it on some of the girls likes etc ..

what does AT DISCRETION MEAN TO YOU as in cim?

and the rest of the at discretions
 
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I don't use the word 'at discretion' because I think it's too confusing, and vague.

Basically I offer the same services to every one, or at least they are available to everyone. I don't advertise or offer anything which isn't possible for 99% of the men I see.

If however there was a hygiene issue I'd point them to the shower to sort it out, if visible sores/weeping then I'd stop right there full stop. If someone is a size which isn't handleable (rare) then there are always ways around it, or something else pleasureable we can do. It's very rare that has happened and the client has always been fine with doing something slightly different, majority of men do not want to cause any discomfort. If anything most are quite the opposite.
 
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I don't use the word 'at discretion' because I think it's too confusing, and vague.

Basically I offer the same services to every one, or at least they are available to everyone. I don't advertise or offer anything which isn't possible for 99% of the men I see.

If however there was a hygiene issue I'd point them to the shower to sort it out, if visible sores/weeping then I'd stop right there full stop. If someone is a size which isn't handleable (rare) then there are always ways around it, or something else pleasureable we can do. It's very rare that has happened and the client has always been fine with doing something slightly different, majority of men do not want to cause any discomfort. If anything most are quite the opposite.
thanks for that reply, this discretion thing is a massive problem..........you either do it or you don't, and yes its totally hygiene etc dependable , most of us get that.

it loses you a lot of work girls as its so undefined
 
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thanks for that reply, this discretion thing is a massive problem..........you either do it or you don't, and yes its totally hygiene etc dependable , most of us get that.

it loses you a lot of work girls as its so undefined
One of my pet niggles is some (only aa few) clients thinking there are hidden services, and that they can persuade me into other things.

When that happens mid-booking it's slightly annoying. As a result I tend to have a list of don'ts which I read out when the booking is being made. 'At discretion' in my opinion leaves both parties vulnerable.
 
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One of my pet niggles is some (only aa few) clients thinking there are hidden services, and that they can persuade me into other things.

When that happens mid-booking it's slightly annoying. As a result I tend to have a list of don'ts which I read out when the booking is being made. 'At discretion' in my opinion leaves both parties vulnerable.

if everyone did that it would work great, nowt worse in booking then handing over the money to find out its not on offer

massive bug bearer and spoils the punt
 
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My take on discretion is that we have the option to say no without being called out for not offering services in our likes list, as long as a genuine reason can be given.

For example I do anal at discretion, it is size dependant , so too big I will say no... Also without being crude it can depend on what time of the day it is...

I offer OWO and CIM without hesitation but if a gentleman looks or smells unclean I will use a condom for oral which then would result in no CIM. Other reasons I would use a condom for oral is obvious signs of std or a cut / wound on his penis. All health related.

Doesn't happen very often with the oral and I can handle a decent size for anal as well, so it's not very often I pull the 'it's at discretion ' card.
 
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My take on discretion is that we have the option to say no without being called out for not offering services in our likes list, as long as a genuine reason can be given.

For example I do anal at discretion, it is size dependant , so too big I will say no... Also without being crude it can depend on what time of the day it is...

I offer OWO and CIM without hesitation but if a gentleman looks or smells unclean I will use a condom for oral which then would result in no CIM. Other reasons I would use a condom for oral is obvious signs of std or a cut / wound on his penis. All health related.

Doesn't happen very often with the oral and I can handle a decent size for anal as well, so it's not very often I pull the 'it's at discretion ' card.

i see your anal is £30 extra, is that not the real discretion? :crazy:
 
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Obviously if the guy is too big he will be refunded or not have to pay the extra.

I get so many anal requests if I didn't charge extra I would be doing it in every booking. I like anal but dont want to do it all day everyday. It's not about the money it's to filter out the amount of people who come to see me wanting it.

On the flip side there has been ocassions with regulars where I've been in the mood and Iv told them to stick it in without even paying any extra.
 
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For 'at discretion' I have a clearly defined tab stating what it means to me. For instance DFK is at discretion but everyone will get it if they don't have bad breath or obvious signs/smell of a gum infection. OWO is on offer for everyone if they can pull their foreskin back enough to clean under it or if it is excessively dribbling. If they cant then a condom will be used. Its not so much the unclean or smelly part as that will just result in me ending the booking as would any signs of STIs as I don't want to go near a smelly or infected cock even with a condom on.
 
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For 'at discretion' I have a clearly defined tab stating what it means to me. For instance DFK is at discretion but everyone will get it if they don't have bad breath or obvious signs/smell of a gum infection. OWO is on offer for everyone if they can pull their foreskin back enough to clean under it or if it is excessively dribbling. If they cant then a condom will be used. Its not so much the unclean or smelly part as that will just result in me ending the booking as would any signs of STIs as I don't want to go near a smelly or infected cock even with a condom on.

great to hear :hi:
 
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WGs, be completely honest, if you have DFK (at discretion) on your profile and the punter is very ugly (however spotlessly clean obviously) do you activate your 'at discretion' clause and not engage in DFK?
 
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WGs, be completely honest, if you have DFK (at discretion) on your profile and the punter is very ugly (however spotlessly clean obviously) do you activate your 'at discretion' clause and not engage in DFK?
I don't care about the looks. No one gets in this job thinking they are going to meet models, just average looking people.
After a couple. Of years in this job , you discover that looks are pointless. You can be good looking and disrespectful and no girl will be eager to provide any service.
I think is about the person, not the looks.
 
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I don't care about the looks. No one gets in this job thinking they are going to meet models, just average looking people.
After a couple. Of years in this job , you discover that looks are pointless. You can be good looking and disrespectful and no girl will be eager to provide any service.
I think is about the person, not the looks.

i think if a wg is comfortable doing it then yes its all part of her service
 
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I don't care about the looks. No one gets in this job thinking they are going to meet models, just average looking people.
After a couple. Of years in this job , you discover that looks are pointless. You can be good looking and disrespectful and no girl will be eager to provide any service.
I think is about the person, not the looks.
Ah ok thanks. So imagine this punter below came to visit you, was perfectly polite and respectful, clean, hygienic and dare I say smelling good. You have DFK at discretion on you profile. You would be happy to DEEP french kiss correct?

http://imgur.com/Ox0yjU2
 
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Ah ok thanks. So imagine this punter below came to visit you, was perfectly polite and respectful, clean, hygienic and dare I say smelling good. You have DFK at discretion on you profile. You would be happy to DEEP french kiss correct?

http://imgur.com/Ox0yjU2
I've seen guys looking worse than that, so YES. Manners and cleanliness mean a lot .
 
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Ah ok thanks. So imagine this punter below came to visit you, was perfectly polite and respectful, clean, hygienic and dare I say smelling good. You have DFK at discretion on you profile. You would be happy to DEEP french kiss correct?

http://imgur.com/Ox0yjU2

correct if he was clean and polite i dont give a pigs ear what he looks like . we not dating hes paying me so he could look far worse and he gets dfk ...
 
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You would be happy to DEEP french kiss correct?
Ha ha Blacknight44 WTF did you search for to come up with that pic. He could do with investing in a toothbrush at least....pls tell me it isnt out of your passport ! and your gonna turn up @ Evas to see if she goes through with it...Get ready Eva :scare: fill the fridge with wine and the bathroom with colgate.
 
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My first FAQ on aw contains my rules: freshly showered, fresh breath, polite and not rude. At my discretion means I refuse to see guys who don't bother to be clean and polite. Looks are not important at all for me, I had lots of fun with plain looking guys or classed as ugly and I will continue to enjoy myself and provide a very good service if the guys who pass my screening procedures will turn up clean (or shower at mine), will treat me with the same respect as they expect from me and will pay my fee.
 
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Unfortunatley there are still guys out there who think that paying us means we cannot say no to something even if its cheesy. Thankfully the large majority of guys dont think that way and turn up lovely and clean of willy. Its rare nowadays that I meet a mingy willy but I did have to ask someone to leave just a few months ago because he turned up with a very obvious cold sore, no point in him staying as we couldnt really do much, would have been waste of his money and too much of a risk for me. This is why I use the term discretion, most pass the standards, its for the few who dont
 
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I don't even put at discretion for French kissing, that's a standard thing for me.

I've always said girls out there won't French kiss or do OWO then what's the point in becoming an escort.
Well said Mandy! My kinda gal.
There's far too many that want the bucks but don't give the bang!
 
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I don't even put at discretion for French kissing, that's a standard thing for me.

I've always said girls out there won't French kiss or do OWO then what's the point in becoming an escort.
I've always found that a bit strange too (bad breath issues aside) - 'I won't kiss you but I will suck your cock' kind of thing :unknown: I guess there may be some girls that want to keep some things just for their personal relationships but, as you say, what is the point in becoming an escort then? (especially if you offer GFE)
 
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"At discretion" is perceived by most punters as meaning no unless qualified by an explanation, and also, rightly or wrongly, as an attempt at deception. This is one of the most common punter complaints and can easily be avoided by a simple note mentioning the availability of shower facilities, mouthwash and toiletries and explaining that there is no OWO without a clean cock or DFK without fresh breath etc. I am sure this could be worded diplomatically. If this takes the form of a FAQ it will be noticed as this is one of the few parts of a profile which usually gets read.
 
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Unfortunately some abuse the term and use it to advertise services they don't offer knowing they can use the at discretion opt out. It tars everyone with their brush, even us girls who really do offer all services advertised
 
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At discretion for me means just that, at my discretion. I love to kiss and I kiss for a whole hour or more nonstop but I won't kiss a guy with rotten teeth or cold sores. I love to lick and suck cock but if its smelly or looks suspicios I will put a condom on it. I love anal as well as sometimes I can cum but i won't put cocks up my arse 3-4 times a day as I can't cum more than once, plus doing it for too long becomes painfull and that's why its at my discretion. I'm aware that some ladies use it so they can avoid providing a service but not all of us use at discretion to deceive clients.
 
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A Romanian girl told me that "at discretion" meant that it was charged extra... yeah like I need English lessons from a Romanian.
 
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I don't even put at discretion for French kissing, that's a standard thing for me.

I've always said girls out there won't French kiss or do OWO then what's the point in becoming an escort.
Because they want the money of course but not everybody is made the same, of course most punters like DFK and OWO but if a girl wants to do OW because she wants to less her chance of catching something that is up to her, obviously she probably will get less work for it but its her choice and her body, I have known a few girls in the past that would not do OWO but they made up for it with everything else and knew how to do it at a good level with a condom.
 
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I've always found that a bit strange too (bad breath issues aside) - 'I won't kiss you but I will suck your cock' kind of thing :unknown: I guess there may be some girls that want to keep some things just for their personal relationships but, as you say, what is the point in becoming an escort then? (especially if you offer GFE)
I have come across girls that wont do DFK but will do OWO and reason is they can control what they are doing to the cock and with the kissing its face on face contact and personal and some girls have said it can be horrible to full on and struggle to breath. So that probably is some of the reasons behind it.
 
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I'm similar to Dani and Bristol - looks make no difference to DFK, but halitosis does, and I'm going to be a little less enthusiastic with extreme slobbering and pointy tongues (seriously - who starts kissing by aggressively sticking their tongue out...?)

I wouldn't switch from OWO to OW for a cheesy/pissy cock - I'd either clean it or avoid going anywhere near it with my mouth, period.
 
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