Question for All - do you feel disappointed if the guy doesn't come

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johnnyboy61

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OK this thread has been prompted by a comment in a thread about whether WGs fake orgasms and some of my own recent experiences.

I cum once in an hour's meet and with a slow build up I reckon that to be just a few minutes before my times up, so it is a perfect length meet for me. However, sometimes in my desire not to climax too soon I have gone past the point and it seems it just ain't going to happen (one of the perils of ageing I suppose).

You can see the look of disappointment and failure on the girl's face at the end of the session, and however much I protest and say what a brilliant time I've had it is clear that they don't believe me. I tell them that in an hour's meet that it is very much about the journey and that the point of orgasm, very pleasurable though it is, lasts for a fraction of that time. One time the conversation continued by text following the meet with a reluctant final, "well if you say so, but I don't understand" from her. (If it was only about the orgasm I'd visit a rub 'n tug establishment)

Then I saw this from one of the female members which echoed my feelings exactly:
But at the end of the day, if I don't cum, does it really matter? Orgasms aren't the be all and end all of sex, for women at least. It's the journey, not the destination that counts ;)
I'm not saying this happens often, and obviously I would have preferred to have climaxed when it does. but equally I don't hold the girl to blame in anyway and it hasn't spoilt my overall enjoyment of 99% of the meeting.

My questions are:

To the guys: Do you feel disappointed and that you have wasted your money if you don't cum?

To the girls: Do you feel disappointed and that you have provided a bad service if a guy doesn't cum?
 
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It's happened to me a couple of times although not recently - and I hope it doesn't later! :p

I find it hard to say I've been disappointed - certainly not with the wg or the punt itself. How can I be when I've been romping about licking sucking and fucking with a gorgeous girl who might sometimes be half my age? Frustrated, maybe a little disappointed with myself, but not with the punt or feeling like I've wasted my money.
 
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sometimes i don't cum is due to not in the mood...you're horny so u book an appointment in advance, but then on the day u just don't feel that horn. Also when u don't fancy the escort. Another is wanking- some of us can't help tug at our little friend and sometimes he's drained and lethargic- poor fella! or our balls are empty of seed, dryer than the queens minge !
 
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Only not come on secondl/third pop, and then normally because the girl's been a bit over eager (some EE girls don't seem to understand the need for a break!)
 
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I could probably finish in oral but the ones I see cim is not on offer but so far have only finished through hand job or finish myself
Positions wise condoms are essential but also stop me shooting so that's that

No big deal is what it is
 
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i doubt my choice would not make me cum if ive saved up 5 days of the balls juice.

i cant see why a WG would be bothered as long as she's got ya moola
 
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The journey is what I get 95% of my pleasure from and as long as that's been good I'm happy, even if I haven't cum.
I know exactly what you mean with that. The act of meeting a girl, getting into her knickers and fucking her is, for me at least, an amazing feeling.

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i cant see why a WG would be bothered as long as she's got ya moola
I think there is such a thing as professional pride and satisfaction in a job well done, perhaps not from many of the Romanian girls, who I'd admit probably couldn't give a toss, but I bet many of the girls who have taken the time to register and participate on here would feel bothered.
 
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I am sure most aren't worried about extracting some baby batter providing they have delivered a good service and you pay... :lol:
 
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I always feel like I've let myself down when the guy doesn't cum :( but I know everyone is different in how much they do...
If the punter is aware he may trouble cumming he should just say at the begining of the meet it may or may not happen. Provided he leaves happy that's all that matters.

If he can't finish round 2 or 3 - that's no reflection on the escort - take pride you got him able have a go for another round
 
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Don't think I've ever failed to cum however sometimes condoms don't agree with me and the wee guys lies down, usually I'll then wank /be wanted over the WG top half
 
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I've failed to cum many a time and I'm always gutted when it happens.

I remember one girl was extremely embarrassed about it and apologised over and over, despite me explaining that it wasn't her fault. Another girl wouldn't let me leave until I had popped - we went well over my allotted time. Another still, just gave up after trying all her friends tricks.

Conversely I've also cum within minutes into an appointment.
 
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If I failed to cum at least once then I would feel my punt was a waste of money. (never happened yet :))

No matter how pleasant the journey, reaching the destination is vital for me.
 
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Yes I feel bad but then if they try and guilt trip me after massive effort to make them cum I stop feeling bad. I try not to be too apologetic because then I feel like im probably making him feel worse
 
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Not happened yet, but as long as the experience was fun, enthusiastic and erotic then I can hardly complain. So whilst perhaps agitated at myself, I would never hold it against the girl or the booking.
 
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I have only failed to come once. I had booked a wg in London, pics looked great, when I saw her, there were some concerns but you tell yourself, time to perform mate.

So she asked me if I wanted owo I said ow please (some will see where this is going). Got hard and then she turned around for doggy. There was a pungent odour emanating from her nether regions. Went limp immediately. She offered a hand job but I just got dressed and left.

Thankfully i had paid for half an hour when I saw her as I generally prefer hour long punts.
 
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If the punter is aware he may trouble cumming he should just say at the begining of the meet it may or may not happen. Provided he leaves happy that's all that matters.

If he can't finish round 2 or 3 - that's no reflection on the escort - take pride you got him able have a go for another round
I wouldn't do that, because any issues I've had are purely psychological so I try not to worry or even think about it beforehand. To discuss whether I might or might not before even starting would be an instant fail right there.

Different if its mentioned leading up to the punt, but I still don't say anything. I've just assured the wg it wasn't her fault at the time. One wg wouldn't stop until she got me there, one never bothered even trying and one tried her best but couldn't get me there. Guess which one I never went back to??
 
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I think there is such a thing as professional pride and satisfaction in a job well done, perhaps not from many of the Romanian girls, who I'd admit probably couldn't give a toss, but I bet many of the girls who have taken the time to register and participate on here would feel bothered.

disagree, they may say so but i cant imagine many that actually really do care either way if the real truth was known
 
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Once during one of the appointments where I failed to cum, the girl in question checked her phone and asked if I could come back in 45 minutes where she would, and I quote, "finish me off" for the princely sum of zero pounds sterling.

Apparently I was the first client to have never cum during a booking. Unfortunately, I couldn't make it, but she did give me a discount on another appointment where she did make me cum.

I've no doubt there are girls who don't care if you pop or not, but some seemingly do.
 
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OK this thread has been prompted by a comment in a thread about whether WGs fake orgasms and some of my own recent experiences.

I cum once in an hour's meet and with a slow build up I reckon that to be just a few minutes before my times up, so it is a perfect length meet for me. However, sometimes in my desire not to climax too soon I have gone past the point and it seems it just ain't going to happen (one of the perils of ageing I suppose).

You can see the look of disappointment and failure on the girl's face at the end of the session, and however much I protest and say what a brilliant time I've had it is clear that they don't believe me. I tell them that in an hour's meet that it is very much about the journey and that the point of orgasm, very pleasurable though it is, lasts for a fraction of that time. One time the conversation continued by text following the meet with a reluctant final, "well if you say so, but I don't understand" from her. (If it was only about the orgasm I'd visit a rub 'n tug establishment)

Then I saw this from one of the female members which echoed my feelings exactly:

I'm not saying this happens often, and obviously I would have preferred to have climaxed when it does. but equally I don't hold the girl to blame in anyway and it hasn't spoilt my overall enjoyment of 99% of the meeting.

My questions are:

To the guys: Do you feel disappointed and that you have wasted your money if you don't cum?

To the girls: Do you feel disappointed and that you have provided a bad service if a guy doesn't cum?
Fortunately I can always cum, its just a question of how many times.
 
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And to answer the thread title specifically

do you feel disappointed if the guy doesn't come

First I would wonder how I ended up in this position (doing a raddy)
Then probably have a little sob knowing I can't please either sex
 
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I always feel like I've let myself down when the guy doesn't cum :( but I know everyone is different in how much they do...
You shouldn't but I guess if you take pride in providing a good service it would be hard not to. There are many many reason why a guy might not cum or find it hard to cum in certain ways. Condoms can make a big difference but are essential so nobody's fault. Nerves can play a big part. If a guy is trying to prolong the experience it sometimes has an effect and there are loads of other reasons. I don't often cum through penetration at the moment despite the fact that I am absolutely loving it and am looking down at a beautiful girl with an amazing body. It's totally bizarre but certainly not the fault of the girl. I have been given some very wise advise by a girl recently that I think will make a big difference for me.....

"stop wanking so much!" :D (she also gave me a few other great tips so big thanks to her :kissgirl:)

The bottom line is, as long as you are fulfilling your part of the deal with enthusiasm then there is no need to beat yourself up about it. As Johnnyboy said for a lot of guys the orgasm is just one small part of the whole experience.
 
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I've only not cum once, a few years ago I was being blown by one of the Diamond girls legends (Darla) for the first time and I just couldn't believe my luck, it was all i could do was to just stand there and watch. It was almost surreal, then she went all reverse on me. She had an awesome ass but again it was like I was involved as a voyeur only, I think it was nerves to be honest. I made up for it loads of times afterwards.

Generally I'm a Jesus H Christ I'm cumming!!! person.. no airs or graces
 
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Yeah I feel the same and on the plus side the filthy Nicky at the end of session needs it it's like closure to a filthy encounter aha I need to see that look in there face when they have came :)
I have never failed and sometimes managed twice. But it was a close shave once probably because I was overstimulated and had to relax for a while. I am an extremely visual person and if the girl uses her body well in the build up then I am ready to explode. Problems only seem to happen with the more mechanical punt where the girl is just going through the motions.

By the way CIM while enjoying 69 has to be the absolute bees knees of orgasms.
 
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