Odd Situation

#1
I recently came across a profile of an ex work colleague. I was thinking of arranging a meet until I realised who she is and just how awkward it could be. How would you act/react to this situation?

Part of me wants too go ahead but something tells me it would be too awkward.
 
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#2
Weigh up the pros and cons...if there are more cons than pros, don't do it.

She is probably just as likely as you to want to keep it quiet. As long as she isn't someone you're likely to see on a daily basis, I don't see the problem - its just business.
 
#3
I think every girl will react differently to this situation so it's quite unfair to just turn up and expect her to be fine with it, if you ask her beforehand I think it greatly increases your chances of her deciding that she is comfortable with seeing you. A little message explaining that you think you may have worked with her and that you'd love to see her would be fair on her.

If someone turned up who knew me there's no way I would see them as I'd be startled and I'd be worrying about things and generally feeling uncomfortable/pissed off. Although I know some girls who wouldn't care at all, it depends on so many factors.
 
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I think every girl will react differently to this situation so it's quite unfair to just turn up and expect her to be fine with it, if you ask her beforehand I think it greatly increases your chances of her deciding that she is comfortable with seeing you. A little message explaining that you think you may have worked with her and that you'd love to see her would be fair on her.

If someone turned up who knew me there's no way I would see them as I'd be startled and I'd be worrying about things and generally feeling uncomfortable/pissed off. Although I know some girls who wouldn't care at all, it depends on so many factors.
I thought of doing something such as this.
 
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I had an old boss turn up at my door and from his smirk I could see he knew who I was before he got there and I just said sorry not a good idea and closed the door on him. There are some lines I wont cross and that was one of them.
 
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I had an old boss turn up at my door and from his smirk I could see he knew who I was before he got there and I just said sorry not a good idea and closed the door on him. There are some lines I wont cross and that was one of them.
I would have done the same Dani what an arse not telling he knew you before hand well done on shutting the door on him I would have done the same .
 
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#8
Been over this on punternet recently only that time it was an old aquaintence.

No way. Dont even let her know that you know. It could be too embaressing for her to know that a real world person knows. Of course there is a small chance she may not care but people tend to keep their real lives and sex industry lives separate. How would you feel if she was mortified or ended up leaving the company over it?
 
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Been over this on punternet recently only that time it was an old aquaintence.

No way. Dont even let her know that you know. It could be too embaressing for her to know that a real world person knows. Of course there is a small chance she may not care but people tend to keep their real lives and sex industry lives separate. How would you feel if she was mortified or ended up leaving the company over it?

I tend to agree with this as people prefer their anonymity. We no longer work together anyway and I believe they are new to the industry.
 
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#10
If I suspected I knew the WG I would keep well away for both our sakes.

I have had my suspicions though about two ladies I have worked with due to comments said that made me think they might have been WGs on the side.
 
#11
I would never knowingly punt with someone who could identify me. If I turned up on the doorstep and I knew her I might go ahead if she was from my distant past, afterall I had already exposed myself as a punter, but not a woman from the office or friend of a friend.

I definitely would not play with fire by contacting someone I thought I recognised.
 
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#12
I recently came across a profile of an ex work colleague. I was thinking of arranging a meet until I realised who she is and just how awkward it could be. How would you act/react to this situation?

Part of me wants too go ahead but something tells me it would be too awkward.
Best to avoid totally.

If you embarrass her, first she'll feel ashamed and confused but then she'll give in to feelings of rage and she'll retaliate by finding out about you and then informing your wife/girlfriend.

Best not to get into it.
 
#13
I think discretion cuts both ways. If I knew the girl through work I would be worried about the both of us being identified. There are just too many negatives
 
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#18
Though I understand the temptation involved I think that it would be a very bad idea to even contact her, and if a booking took place both you and the girl would probably regret it afterwards and have doubts and worries that their discretion had been compromised.Some escorts and punters are open about it but the majority would be concerned about their two lives being linked and this could be genuinely traumatic.Bearing in mind the potential upset and embarrassment that could be caused it would be very selfish and inconsiderate to even contact her for the sake of a quick thrill.

It is best to err on the side of caution if unsure.If the lady had clear face pictures in her main profile and was well established it would probably be alright to message her to ask, but if it comes across that she is secretive about her work then no way.Punting is meant to create happiness , not worry and regret.
 
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I had someone I'd met on an online dating site message me saying he knew me already (we had had one or two dates but never got anywhere) - it freaked me out a bit, but I saw him several times as a client, where he whispered in my ear that he'd wanted to do that since he first saw me... It was a weird situation, but at the end of the day I got paid and he was happy, so I try not to think too hard about it!
 
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