No booking with blacks/asians/etc.. Share your experience.

#1
First post for me after few days lurking. Interesting new site, well done Admin.

A new review in UKP gived me the will to ask this question.
Why some escorts don't want see some punters?
Please, be honest and if you want, share your past bad experience.
Nobody wants to judge, it's just a curiosity. Thanks.
 
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#2
I don't refuse any race or skin colour or have age preferences but I do refuse someone who speaks English getto (or the 'innit' language). I also exclude anyone who is deaf and can't either lip read or do BSL as well as anyone who Has an accent or lack of English that makes it hard to communicate. The first exclusion is due to the fact that I would have nothing in common with them to speak about due to their destruction of the language we speak and the second and third because of we can't communicate how will the person understand me when I say I don't offer certain services
However if someone does exclude due to age or race or skin colour then that is their choice end of. We are entitled to refuse anyone we want to as we are providing an intimate service. I do however believe this should be made clear on the profile not just in the Q&A sectionals a lot don't read that part of the orofile
 
#3
Thanks Dani for your contribution. BTW I honestly expected more than one answer :blush:
I understand it's a delicate topic but would appreciate differents point of view.
 
#4
As Dani said, it doesn't matter the colour of a client skin as long as he is polite on the phone/emails and speaks an intelligible English. If he is not, how am I suppose to make him understand my boundaries and where I am? Unfortunately most of the clients who don't bother to say: Hi, I would like a booking at 1 pm for example but instead choose to text or ask: What's ur post code? U free now? Are you open? have also a very bad spoken or written English and as I have to give them a landmark close to my home then explain on the phone where I am, if they can't understand me proper I preffer not to take bookings from them.
 
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As Dani said, it doesn't matter the colour of a client skin as long as he is polite on the phone/emails and speaks an intelligible English. If he is not, how am I suppose to make him understand my boundaries and where I am? Unfortunately most of the clients who don't bother to say: Hi, I would like a booking at 1 pm for example but instead choose to text or ask: What's ur post code? U free now? Are you open? have also a very bad spoken or written English and as I have to give them a landmark close to my home then explain on the phone where I am, if they can't understand me proper I preffer not to take bookings from them.
Yep. Txtspk does my head in, and if they can't even say "hi", it's an instant delete from me. I generally don't see people who communicate in txtspk. And before anyone cries "but they might be dyslexic!", the people I know who have dyslexia DON'T use txtspk because they can't understand it. So I don't think I'm doing the dyslexics of the world a disservice.

And I agree with all Dani's post up there ^^^
 
#6
good question, I'm an asian west indian (yeah , I know!) with an english name, so I've had a few uncomfortable occasions where I've had the "sorry no blacks/asians" thrown at me and left me feeling like shit. I now try to ask this as my first question but even then ladies seem irritated by it so instead I phone up with an asian name and ask to make and appointment . Inevitably I still get a surprised look on the girls face when they see me (maybe it's just my ugly boat) and I instantly feel uncomfortable. I don't think ladies are being racist in any way as its different stokes for different folks and I'd much more punt with a enthusiastic non attractive lady than an unenthusiastic beauty
 
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#8
Ultimately, the WGs decide who they want to see. It is their prerogative. I personally like to sample the quite extensive menu on offer from all corners of the globe. Although I am not particularly attracted to East Asian women I have found. I do find WGs who say they have had a bad experience with this race or that race irritating. Cunts exist across all races and I've never seen a WG say, she had a bad experience with white guys and say she is no longer seeing us as a result. So when I see someone with that excuse, I automatically black list them.
 
#9
I am fine with any age- race - skin colour so long as they are clean and respectful.
I've turned bookings away due to lack of hygeine- after an offer of a shower- a wash and an army wash. It upsets me tbh as I wouldn't turn up to a client stinking and no effort what so ever with my appearance. A bar of soap doesn't cost much!!!
Xx
 
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#10
Apologies in advance if TL;DR.

My exclusions, and why:
  1. Men born/raised in the Caribbean and sub-Saharan Africa: HIV risk (and see next)
  2. Darker British Afro-Caribbean men: just not sexually attracted and I wouldn't want to waste their money by being unenthusiastic (lighter skinned no problem)
  3. Men from the Indian sub-continent: a). cultural attitude to women of a significant majority, of which I have quite a lot of personal experience and b). still getting over my previous professional life being ended by offshoring and having to deal with an office full of people who would lie to your face and do their best to save their own skins even if meant shitting on every one else. The accent now just gets my hackles up.
  4. Older men (58+): not sure why, but OAPs just give me the heebie-jeebies in terms of being physically intimate with them. Many 60-65 year olds are in good fettle, but I'd rather be safe than sorry.
With the possible exception of no.3, none of these reflect my feelings about the people concerned in general, only with regard to the escort-client relationship, given that we obviously can't screen to any great extent. I know I'm a niche taste, so I hope no rejected men take it personally, but I do quite often feel bad about it.
 
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Apologies in advance if TL;DR.

My exclusions, and why:
  1. Men born/raised in the Caribbean and sub-Saharan Africa: HIV risk (and see next)
  2. Darker British Afro-Caribbean men: just not sexually attracted and I wouldn't want to waste their money by being unenthusiastic (lighter skinned no problem)
  3. Men from the Indian sub-continent: a). cultural attitude to women of a significant majority, of which I have quite a lot of personal experience and b). still getting over my previous professional life being ended by offshoring and having to deal with an office full of people who would lie to your face and do their best to save their own skins even if meant shitting on every one else. The accent now just gets my hackles up.
  4. Older men (58+): not sure why, but OAPs just give me the heebie-jeebies in terms of being physically intimate with them. Many 60-65 year olds are in good fettle, but I'd rather be safe than sorry.
With the possible exception of no.3, none of these reflect my feelings about the people concerned in general, only with regard to the escort-client relationship, given that we obviously can't screen to any great extent. I know I'm a niche taste, so I hope no rejected men take it personally, but I do quite often feel bad about it.
Blimey, I'm a HIV risk and never even knew it, as are all my friends? and every male from the caribbean? I'd better tell the WHO
 
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Apologies in advance if TL;DR.

My exclusions, and why:
  1. Men born/raised in the Caribbean and sub-Saharan Africa: HIV risk (and see next)
  2. Darker British Afro-Caribbean men: just not sexually attracted and I wouldn't want to waste their money by being unenthusiastic (lighter skinned no problem)
  3. Men from the Indian sub-continent: a). cultural attitude to women of a significant majority, of which I have quite a lot of personal experience and b). still getting over my previous professional life being ended by offshoring and having to deal with an office full of people who would lie to your face and do their best to save their own skins even if meant shitting on every one else. The accent now just gets my hackles up.
  4. Older men (58+): not sure why, but OAPs just give me the heebie-jeebies in terms of being physically intimate with them. Many 60-65 year olds are in good fettle, but I'd rather be safe than sorry.
With the possible exception of no.3, none of these reflect my feelings about the people concerned in general, only with regard to the escort-client relationship, given that we obviously can't screen to any great extent. I know I'm a niche taste, so I hope no rejected men take it personally, but I do quite often feel bad about it.
Sexual attraction - clients don't expect us to find them really hot, what they want is us to show enthusiasm, give them a good time and have fun so they leave happy and satisfied. Unless you are absolutely repulsed by dark skinned men then how are they different from unattractive white clients?
I'm not having a go, it's your choice who you see. I just don't understand why sexual attraction is important in paid sex.

Also I thin HIV transmission risk is very low from OWO/protected sex, probably so low that the risk is the same across all races but I don't have any stats on hand to back that claim up xxx
 
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I don't have any restrictions, some of my favorites have been of asian/indian/arab background. In my personal life I always get attracted to different nationalities.
However i've never met any black men, it's just not as common in my the city. I'd like to think i was very open on those grounds.
 
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#17
You know I find the whole race thing so silly, you really don't need to elaborate

If you do not want to see an ethnic group you don't have to justify

For every wg that does not want to see a type there is a punter who is likewise

It's just the punter is not under the spotlight because they don't have to list ALL preferences as a pre requisite to making a booking

It's not racist it's preference and that's fine

I would not see a black wg or date does that make me racist, no

In every other part of my life they will be treated with same contempt I treat everyone, I don't discriminate

But don't force people to engage in one of the most intimate activities because your part of the pc brigade

Everyone has the right of choice and that shouldn't be taken away
 
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I dont see the chavtastic brigade famed for their "U 3 @7" texts and believe it or not, sometimes even emails. Well thats not exactly true. I text back asking them to speak english as I dont speak gobldegook. If they text back properly then they stand a chance, if they just start getting shirty I tell them we are not compatable.

I dont see people who cant speak english to a level where we can converse properly, if they keep not understanding me or I keep not understanding them on the phone then misunderstandings are going to occur.

I dont turn people away based on colour, nationality or religion but if someone started spouting religious shite at me about how my job is shameful then to be honest they can stay and hear my FULL response or leave before their ears start to bleed from it
 
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#22
Again, like I said previously it is a WGs prerogative who she sees but this HIV risk is just nonsense. Due to the nature of my job, I travel extensively across Sub Saharan Africa. There are a lot of myths perpetuated by the media and even the WHO. There are close to a billion people in sub Saharan Africa and you will find where there is a lack of sexual education, STIs exist, however HIV is something that people are wary of. The people who would most likely be infected will not have the funds or resources to travel to the UK for punting.

Take all the precautions you need but HIV is not the flu. I was in Nigeria for instance when there was an ebola victim from Liberia and they immediately contained it without it spreading and the UK and the USA govts actually sent experts there to observe and use some of the knowledge should we be affected.

Again, it is your choice but these people and their countries are far more advanced and knowledgeable than the media in the west portray them.
 
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This is true however in MK a couple of years ago there was a disturbing article in the local paper. 85% of new HIV cases in the area were hetorosexual african males who contracted the disease AFTER they came to the UK/Europe, I imagine because they thought they no longer had to worry about catching HIV here whereas in africa they did worry about it and took precautions.

However it did not state wether that was 85% of 10, 20, 100 or 1000 people so the reality may be that there are 3 new HIV cases wandering around.
 
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I often wonder how I would react if I read a profile that excluded certain a race or ethnicity that I belonged to. The closest I come to that is where an escort has age limits, which thankfully is rare and tends to affect the lower end of the age range, so I've never been rejected for that reason. But at the end of the day it is up to the girl who she is prepared to see just like punters can choose which girls they want to book, whether that be based on race, ethnicity or nationality. As Dani mentioned, it is a very intimate service being offered and both parties need to be completely comfortable if they are to get the best out of it.
 
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I don't have any restrictions, some of my favorites have been of asian/indian/arab background. In my personal life I always get attracted to different nationalities.
However i've never met any black men, it's just not as common in my the city. I'd like to think i was very open on those grounds.
Where abouts in the world are you Cherry??
 
#27
I don't discriminate on age, looks, height, weight, race, religion or whatever. As many other Escorts have already posted, I only discriminate against people who are rude in their communications. Other reasons for not seeing someone would be inability to hold a conversation, constantly talking over me (does happen), too many emails or text messages.

I have had clients of various backgrounds visit me, and I have an inkling that some may have done so because ladies in other areas do clearly advertise discrimination on their profiles.

The first time I had an asian client I was very nervous and he knew why that was, it was because I'd heard so many stories from other Escorts.

Many years on and yes I've had problems with black, white, pink, purple men and no problems from all the same. My absolute worst experiences have been with white, caucasions some of whom have been localish. No violence or stalking from non-caucasians.

I have however been assumed to have a redneck attitude, so that's a bit of a reversal.
 
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I never understand the exclusion of Asians. After all Asia encompasses races from the Far East (ie. China etc), Indian subcontinent & the Middle East (Arabs, Turks, Iranians). Are they all excluded when no Asians are mentioned in a profile?
 
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I genuinely never refuse anyone who I have never met before. For me, there must be a valid reason why I refuse to see someone such a violence/bad attitude/hygiene not colour of skin.

I'm quite similar to Cherry, I am attracted to all nationalities. It'll be the person who gets banned not the race xxx
 
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I genuinely never refuse anyone who I have never met before. For me, there must be a valid reason why I refuse to see someone such a violence/bad attitude/hygiene not colour of skin.

I'm quite similar to Cherry, I am attracted to all nationalities. It'll be the person who gets banned not the race xxx
I can vouch for that.....the part about TT seeing all nationalities that is, as I've enjoyed some of her time in the past and look forward to her seeing me again soon (like REALLY soon) hopefully with her friend.....
 
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#31
Obviously, prossies can see who they want to see. As can the punter, and my choice was to not see anybody whose profile said "no blacks etc" - though I'm not black, I wouldn't see a girl that would make that judgement, in the interests of not rewarding an attitude that I find bizarre.
 
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Obviously, prossies can see who they want to see. As can the punter, and my choice was to not see anybody whose profile said "no blacks etc" - though I'm not black, I wouldn't see a girl that would make that judgement, in the interests of not rewarding an attitude that I find bizarre.
My thoughts exactly. It is not like you are looking to date the person or grow old together. I'm not black myself but once I see it in a WGs profile, I blacklist her immediately.
 
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I did have a restriction on my profile when I first started, simply because I had never been with anybody of another race and didn't know if I would like it. I know that I am being paid to provide a service and it shouldn't matter if I like them or not. But when new I wanted to be comfortable until I was sure I could do the job. Despite, or maybe because of that restriction I received requests from those groups, most sounding really nice. I decided the restriction was rediculous, these men sounded perfectly lovely. So I removed it (yet to get round to removing it from my web site) and every body gets the same screening and I have seen some lovely Asian, Chinese and mixed race men. Glad I removed it.
 
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I don't have an issue with any race or nationality at all. When I first started I had a few who would contact me and say "I'm black/Chinese/Indian etc. is that ok?" and couldn't understand why it wouldn't be until I saw that quite a few profiles do have restrictions on them. I decided to put it into my FAQ's that I'm happy to meet with any race. Some people still choose to mention their race beforehand but it really isn't necessary!
 
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