How Much Is Actually You ?

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When you are meeting a punter, how much of your persona in the meeting is actually you ? Obviously you need to keep certain details about yourself private and anonymous, as do we but how much of the personality you display is actually yourself, or do you prefer to have an alternate self ? For my own part as a punter I am just myself during meets. Also interested to hear from punters about how much of their own personality is on display during a meet.
 
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All of it. I can't be bothered acting. You get the "Cat" version of me, who has stepped out of "real life" to join the "punter" version of you for a short period of mutual fun.
 
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Im just me, for good or for bad its the only person I can be. Im too scatterbrained to have a work persona, once a guy had met me a few times he would end up thinking im some sort of multiple personality mental case because Id end up acting a different way every time. I think Im good enough as I am,some agree,some dont. Im pretty much what I say on my tin
 
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It's all me on a punt as I like a laugh and some fun, just don't do serious these days. But I am careful how much detail I go into, making sure not to let any personally info out, unless I have seen a girl a lot.
 
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It's all me on a punt as I like a laugh and some fun, just don't do serious these days. But I am careful how much detail I go into, making sure not to let any personally info out, unless I have seen a girl a lot.
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It's more a case of the real me gets hidden in public, can't be bothered to lie so just economical with facts about the non-punting me
 
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I'm just myself, the Ronseal of punters. I do exactly what it says on the tin. Unless I'm doing role play of course.

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All me, I'm a shite actress. But I do become more guarded than my 'real self' when asked personal/identifying questions as I'm very open in general life. I'd love to be able to create a cover story and freely talk about any old bollocks rather than potentially making it awkward by not wanting to answer, but I just can't lie, nor would I be able to remember the lie I told on a repeat visit
 
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That's a good question , for me you get me the kinky version of me which is good because the kinky me is fun ,of course I love to get he banter with the people I meet so they get the funny me as well :)
No point in trying to change my personality I am who I am and people tend to like me for my honesty :)
That's the best way to be. You can still show your personality without giving away personal details. Once any initial nerves have gone I relax into my normal self pretty quickly. I do still sometimes find it a little bit awkward to talk about my particular turn-ons without feeling that I'm going to be judged but I hope that will soon go. To be honest mine are very vanilla and I am sure most girls will have heard them all before many times but for a noob it can still take a little getting used to :scare:
 
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With me punters see Dani the version of me I have never allowed out in my private life as I was brought up in a Bi religion family to be a quiet good girl and to mind myself at all times so when Dani came along I didn't have to mind myself all the time and could relax and not worry about what others thought of me. I suppose Dani is the naughtier side of me I cannot show in everyday life
 
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All me - even when I spend ages coming up with a detailed role play it's still just me badly acting the role play and laughing at my bad acting. :D
That's me usually, except a lady I saw twice, sadly no longer working where the roleplay was incredible.
I'd turn up and we'd have a cup of tea in the kitchen and discuss what we were going to do. I 'd then go up to the bedroom and a few minutes later she would come in dressed and in character, we'd have the hour roleplay after which she'd leave the room. We'd get dressed separately and I'd meet her again in the kitchen. It worked really well and I think it was a great way of separating the role-play from real life.
 

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I'm pretty much myself when punting without giving away my true identity, so have a few cover stories...friendly, polite, interested in others, a bit of a cheeky sense of humour...I'm useless at acting...I tried roleplay once, but couldn't keep it going, was laughing too much, did turn out a good punt though, laughter & sex are a good combination! :lol:
 
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#19
Depends on what you class as being yourself really. Simple rule is never trust a prostitute the same way as they should never trust a punter ;)
 
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I'm an open book as I am terrible at lying ha. I'm obviously not going to be giving everything away but if someone asks me something I'm comfortable giving a true answer for then I do. Im also a proper scatterbraine and would forget everything I lie about anyway so you can either have me or a new girl/persona every time you see me ha
 
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I'm a slow opener in my real life so I dont spill my guts to punters i find it unprofessional they don't want to hear how tough my real job is do they?
Sure I will keep it to generic topics like jobs, and travelling etc but I try to be the best version of myself for the job in hand. I don't stifle my personality but really some people i like more and feel more comfortable being myself with them.
 
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When you are meeting a punter, how much of your persona in the meeting is actually you ? Obviously you need to keep certain details about yourself private and anonymous, as do we but how much of the personality you display is actually yourself, or do you prefer to have an alternate self ? For my own part as a punter I am just myself during meets. Also interested to hear from punters about how much of their own personality is on display during a meet.
I'm a slow opener in my real life so I dont spill my guts to punters i find it unprofessional they don't want to hear how tough my real job is do they?
Sure I will keep it to generic topics like jobs, and travelling etc but I try to be the best version of myself for the job in hand. I don't stifle my personality but really some people i like more and feel more comfortable being myself with them.
I think cherryfuck and my fav are on the same wavelength !
I personally believe that this scenario is quite common among SP's. ( heaven knows why - I haven't met all that many :()
Nice "girl next door" outside of the working environment, but plaster on the make up and the sexy undies or uniforms, and she's "allowed" to become a different persona and absolute sex goddess with an insatiable appetite for cock that's willing to pay to enter her body in various different places :wackogirl:.
Girls, can you honestly say that you're exactly the same sort of woman at work as you are in regular life ?
 
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I'm just myself, the Ronseal of punters. I do exactly what it says on the tin. Unless I'm doing role play of course.

tcm
I'm berocca - "you, but on a good day"

I'm 100% myself, but like the same way you are the better version of yourself if you go to interview or meet someone you fancy or whatever - you don't change who you are, you just hide any flaws...
 
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I'm just me, can't be doing with making up fake names etc. I'd only forget it anyway and wonder who the hell she was talking to if I used a false name!
 
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It's always the real me, can't be arsed with all that pretence. Some girls know a fair bit about me and others less so. I made the schoolboy error of replying to two girls using my second email account that showed my real name, so I'm sure my Facebook was well and truly interrogated before I set foot in their homes. :wacko: Even so I always use my real first name with all girls I meet; wouldn't know what other name to choose anyway. Thought about Hank, Buck or Roger, but then thought Nah!!!
 
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Okay, who is really going to answer this by saying "Yeah it's all a persona and actually nothing like me"? :P I know that at least in my circles, I am the only one that doesn't actually put on a persona.

I really tried at the beginning to come up with a persona but I just couldn't, I don't know that it's that I'm not creative so much as the stuff I wanted to market myself is genuinely the stuff I find hot about myself and anything else I came up with I just didn't find attractive, so couldn't picture making it hot for others. I am not scared to show vulnerability which is why I will make negative blog posts from time to time, won't be scared to say you're a shit kisser if you ask me, and never fake an orgasm. That's what the real me is. I still make an effort, remain as professional as possible and glam myself up more than on most days (although admittedly I do dress quite "fancy" anyway so even that isn't a stretch from the real me). I talk quite in depth about my personal life with clients that I feel a good vibe with (60-70% of them). I do genuinely enjoy most of my work, so I'll be genuinely enjoying it most of the time even if it's not in a strictly sexual/orgasmic way - e.g. I probably still like you and genuinely find you funny or charming or whatever, as I do most people and don't think I could do this job if I didn't! But yeah, there are a select few that I flat out do not get on with, or that walk in and immediately make me feel uncomfortable/mock me and those people are flat out not going to get a good service, because the real me isn't happy which means that Indigo isn't either. Thankfully, I reckon over the past couple of months I have got better at screening these people out and recognising that I'm probably not the escort for them, I'm not scared to say that to somebody and recommend they go to someone else. :) It means that the quality of my clients have vastly increased, which means I enjoy work more which makes me happier, etc. etc., the cycle of a happy hooker.

Bit of a tangent there but yes, my point is that this is pretty much as real as it gets, but that means that I am fully human and come with flaws as well. :P
 
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#28
I'd say the only difference is that as someone is paying me for my time and services, I'm always polite and considerate, whereas with friends etc. you might not bother to hide it if you were in a tetchy mood or something. I think I'm naturally fairly warm and friendly, and I'm the same with clients. Aside from the clothing and make-up, I'm no different when working.
 
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#29
It's fun loving me you get. I like a laugh and a joke and have to assess how far a can go with my warped sense of humour. Unless of course I'm the letting agent or your there for the interview.
 
#30
My visitor gets how he'd meet me as if in public..With the exception of dressing down as not everyone likes a rock/goth look and although could be kinky to pounce in public..I don't fancy been arrested lol
 
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For me, attempting to maintain a facade or alter ego would be draining and an unwanted distraction.This does not mean that I cannot understand the appeal and benefits it could have for others ; a chance to play out an ideal self that you could not do in the real world , or as a way of distancing your real self from what is going on and in the process removing many of the inhibitions you may naturally possess.The second point has been reported by many famous actors and actresses over the years.

I do not intentionally behave differently from normal during a booking but there will be some differences simply due to the environment.I think a fair assessment of my personality could be gauged from a booking but some of the more extreme elements will be toned down due to the sensitivity of the situation.

I prefer more of a GFE / honest and friendly service provider feel and do not like fakery from an escort , or at least keep it subtle.There will likely be the odd white lie on both sides which is a necessary part of everyday social interaction and is more a show of good will and friendliness that deliberate deception.I do not ask for or give identifying personal details to escorts but hope that any other conversation is truthful and open.I prefer an honest experience and some connection with the real person.
 
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I'm maybe a bit nicer in a booking than real life
Dolled up isn't always sexier IMO there was a Latvian girl near me a few weeks ago and her profile pictures did nothing for me, but her verification photo, that's another matter...
Unfortunately she's moved on before I could see her
 
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Dolled up isn't always sexier IMO there was a Latvian girl near me a few weeks ago and her profile pictures did nothing for me, but her verification photo, that's another matter...
Unfortunately she's moved on before I could see her
sorry didn't mean looks, meant I'm only sociable when sex is involved lol
 
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