How important is HER pleasure?

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Depends...sometimes Ive gotta know at least she is enjoying it, or at least good actor (but I hope would be able to see through that)
Unless Im feeling really dirty and just wanna get off then its....give a good old banging and fuck straight off as soon as Ive cum
 
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honest.........yes i'd say we all want them to enjoy it, it makes for a great punt and tbh i don't mind a bit of well done fake.

i'm paying you to give me a great time...........however, i like a submissive woman to dom over and then its all ME ME ME , what i want and fuck you( in a sexy dom way)
 
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For me half the pleasure is in giving pleasure, one of the biggest turn-ons for me is when she guides and hints what's working for her (as that hopefully suggests she's enjoying it too)
 
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Probably like most part of the fun is seeing the woman in orgasmic pleasure. I personally find it very erotic watching and experiencing a woman at the height of sexual pleasure. So for me it is important. Of course in this game there's bound to be quite a bit of fakery, I accept that and now just see it all as part of the fantasy and not get hung up about it.
 
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Now be honest, gents. How much do you care whether or not she gets off and to what extent is it all about treating yourself to some selfish fun? Do you only worry about civvie girls' pleasure and happily let yourself be serviced when it is a WG or do you insist on it being mutually satisfying?
Interesting question. When I started punting I wanted to feel that the wg had enjoyed herself and quite honestly I would still think this was a nice scenario. However I have become more cynical and doubt very many wgs really enjoy sex with most of the men they meet, and I cannot stand obvious fake orgasms.

A question for you: How many of your punters genuinely make you cum, and how many do you wish they would stop searching for the magic button and leave it alone as you don't want to cum again that day?

There have been a few wgs where I have not been sure, and it did make me feel good to think she might have had a good time too :)

I don't believe a wg seeing several clients a day is going to cum easily, and unless she encourages me to continue, I stop when I feel like it, rather than persisting until she fakes an orgasm.

A bit selfish huh?
 
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Interesting question. When I started punting I wanted to feel that the wg had enjoyed herself and quite honestly I would still think this was a nice scenario. However I have become more cynical and doubt very many wgs really enjoy sex with most of the men they meet, and I cannot stand obvious fake orgasms.

A question for you: How many of your punters genuinely make you cum, and how many do you wish they would stop searching for the magic button and leave it alone as you don't want to cum again that day?

There have been a few wgs where I have not been sure, and it did make me feel good to think she might have had a good time too :)

I don't believe a wg seeing several clients a day is going to cum easily, and unless she encourages me to continue, I stop when I feel like it, rather than persisting until she fakes an orgasm.

A bit selfish huh?
I don't usually see multiple people in a day, so I can't really pass comment on that, but I've never faked an orgasm in my life. I'm worried it would be too obvious haha and yes, I really enjoy the sex. That's why I chose this profession - I'm a nymphomaniac who just wanted to take it that step further!
 
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Now be honest, gents. How much do you care whether or not she gets off and to what extent is it all about treating yourself to some selfish fun? Do you only worry about civvie girls' pleasure and happily let yourself be serviced when it is a WG or do you insist on it being mutually satisfying?
It's very important to me so it's a shame I'm not that good at it :unknown: I get turned on a lot at the sight of a girl enjoying herself so it's in my interests too to try and make that happen.
 
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Absolutely crucial for me. If I don't think she's enjoying herself I don't really enjoy myself, it becomes like an elaborate and expensive wank if it's a one way street. I do get off on seeing a woman orgasm (and yes I think I can tell most of the time) and I also find that I get much more enthusiasm from her if she's into the session.

On UKP you'd get shot down for saying this but I think it makes perfect sense to make it mutually enjoyable.
 
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Absolutely crucial for me. If I don't think she's enjoying herself I don't really enjoy myself, it becomes like an elaborate and expensive wank if it's a one way street. I do get off on seeing a woman orgasm (and yes I think I can tell most of the time) and I also find that I get much more enthusiasm from her if she's into the session.

On UKP you'd get shot down for saying this but I think it makes perfect sense to make it mutually enjoyable.
Exactly this
 
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For me, it's about creating an experience that I couldn't replicate at home. Reciprocation helps when making the encounter as euphoric, which is the goal i have when i punt. If the lady is into the session as much as i am, then you feel some sort of synergy, before an explosion ;)
 
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It's a great feeling when it happens, if it doesn't so be it. I love it if a wg genuinely seems to orgasm if I give her oral. I say seems to, who knows except her? ;)
 
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Don't get me started, I said don't get me started. OK I'll start:

About 6 months ago I managed to get me a booking with my dream girl, physically that is. She will remain nameless. I arrived and she had this fixed pattern that she kept on repeating.

'I see this as a job, my job is to give you pleasure, it doesn't matter about me, as long as you have a good time then my job is done'

I tried to tell her, her enjoying herself was part of what got me to enjoy myself, it turned me on so I am just gagging for it. Didn't help. She even started saying she didn't want to cum because she felt guilty to her boyfriend. So there was me with this goddess of a body and quite literally I was deflated, lost all interest and wanted to exit stage left.

So yes it is very important to me that the girl enjoys herself. Otherwise I just want to leave :hi:
 
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To me it's vital to give her pleasure. I would actually feel really awkward if a girl was just lying there letting me fuck her and not into it at all, it would completely kill the mood for me. On top of that there really is no bigger turn on than seeing a girl come, and to me the fact I'm paying for her time is a complete irrelevance. I of course would love the WG to be enjoying herself as much as I am, if she is it will help build a rapport and keep me coming back for more. Giving oral really is my favourite part of a punt. Let's face it too, making a girl cum is a bit of a boost to the old self esteem too! Many of us married guys with disinterested wives could do with that, and it's all part of the overall positive experience for me.
 
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Giving oral really is my favourite part of a punt. Let's face it too, making a girl cum is a bit of a boost to the old self esteem too! Many of us married guys with disinterested wives could do with that, and it's all part of the overall positive experience for me.
To completely embarass myself, unless I am a complete misjudge of the female orgasm, I have given more girls pleasure in the past 2 years than in my whole flipping life. In the words of Matt Damon 'How'd ya like them apples'
 
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Now be honest, gents. How much do you care whether or not she gets off and to what extent is it all about treating yourself to some selfish fun? Do you only worry about civvie girls' pleasure and happily let yourself be serviced when it is a WG or do you insist on it being mutually satisfying?
With a WG I am not bothered nowadays, if any do get off which is highly unlikely then that's fine with me.
 
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Half the pleasure in a punt is making sure that the girl enjoys the sex as much as I do. There are, in fact, two aspects to this - the first is that after a long and happy marriage with a very full and happy sex life it comes as second nature to make sure that she is enjoying it as much as I am; the second is that the sensation of a girl having an orgasm while I am deep inside her is the ultimate sexual pleasure.
 
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I'm a human and if my body doesn't fancy an orgasm, then I don't want to force it. I'm a one-orgasm-a-day-makes-me-happy woman, and once I've had that balance tips and the second one isn't worth it.

Someone who sees me having an orgasm as the be all and end all of proving 'my pleasure' does nothing but make me feel under pressure to perform. It also feels very much one sided towards that person - because he's only happy if I've climaxed, which is still pointing towards his pleasure. Seeing a man feel wanted, that I've made him happy, plus my fee is more than enough for me.

I'm the same in my private life, I don't always want an orgasm and it's not always possible.

Often I hear from men that a woman has to be relaxed and feel safe to have an orgasm, that's so not true, it's a mixture of what my body feels like, and whether the person I'm with is listening to my requirements which sometimes might be "I'm ok let's concentrate on you"!
 
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With a WG I am not bothered nowadays, if any do get off which is highly unlikely then that's fine with me.
I'm a human and if my body doesn't fancy an orgasm, then I don't want to force it. I'm a one-orgasm-a-day-makes-me-happy woman, and once I've had that balance tips and the second one isn't worth it.

Someone who sees me having an orgasm as the be all and end all of proving 'my pleasure' does nothing but make me feel under pressure to perform. It also feels very much one sided towards that person - because he's only happy if I've climaxed, which is still pointing towards his pleasure. Seeing a man feel wanted, that I've made him happy, plus my fee is more than enough for me.

I'm the same in my private life, I don't always want an orgasm and it's not always possible.

Often I hear from men that a woman has to be relaxed and feel safe to have an orgasm, that's so not true, it's a mixture of what my body feels like, and whether the person I'm with is listening to my requirements which sometimes might be "I'm ok let's concentrate on you"!
It all comes down to a guy asking to know the lay of the land before he starts. Communication is so important, if the girl just doesn't want to then thats fine, its when she purposely excludes from the menu that it is a bit sad.
 
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It all comes down to a guy asking to know the lay of the land before he starts. Communication is so important, if the girl just doesn't want to then thats fine, its when she purposely excludes from the menu that it is a bit sad.
Trust me it definitely isn't excluded, I don't withhold anything and that goes for any sexual services - I do what I do and that's it. If I could orgasm multiple times at the drop of a hat, and without it wiping me out, I most certainly would.
 
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It's very important to me.
Hopefully she has as much pleasure as I do.Not necessarily to orgasm every time [although that would be great and not for the lack of effort,on my part],but to at least enjoy the experience.I surely do not want mechanical sex and as 'Broksonic',said previously it would be like having sex with a blow up doll.
Communication between both parties would help.
 
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I think it is and has to be very important, if it ends up a very mechanical experience with just going through the motions until the guy pop's and off he goes what is the point? I may leave the booking with the girl thinking he was crap? but I did my best lol so trying to put a smile on her face is key imo, on that note it can be a one horse race as the girl will /may have seen a few blokes through the day and thus the best stud in the world could not satisfy her! its just human nature that she cant be in the mood all day and get turned on with every punter...... mind I must have seen a few good actresses in my time
 
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I think it's always useful to remember that a punt is not the same as sex with the other half. Personally, when I visit a wg my expectation is much higher, as the lady is usually skilled at her job.
Therefore, it's good to know that for the duration, the sex should be top notch.

Doesn't always happen of course, sometimes I under perform or maybe the lady is not having such a good day. But generally, most of the time the punt is really good.
Most ladies don't expect anything in return (except the fee of course) so if you are able to give something back and she is able to express her pleasure, then you are on to a winner.

I don't kid myself, by believing that every woman I see is actually experiencing a real orgasm.
But even if they are faking, it's nice to know that they are going the extra mile and expressing some form of pleasure.
 
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For me the more the girl gets turned on the more I get turned on, so a good punt for me has to be a two way street. In fact I can struggle to orgasm if I think the girl is not into it and a repeat visit is not on the cards.
 
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I think it's always useful to remember that a punt is not the same as sex with the other half. Personally, when I visit a wg my expectation is much higher, as the lady is usually skilled at her job.
Therefore, it's good to know that for the duration, the sex should be top notch.

Doesn't always happen of course, sometimes I under perform or maybe the lady is not having such a good day. But generally, most of the time the punt is really good.
Most ladies don't expect anything in return (except the fee of course) so if you are able to give something back and she is able to express her pleasure, then you are on to a winner.

I don't kid myself, by believing that every woman I see is actually experiencing a real orgasm.
But even if they are faking, it's nice to know that they are going the extra mile and expressing some form of pleasure.
I suspect for most guys they are here as sex with the other half is either mundane or non-existant and guys giving girls genuine pleasure is a bonus in my opinion.
 
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It's more or less essential for me; if the girl isn't enjoying it then neither am I. She doesn't have to be cumming all over the place but as long as she is genuinely enjoying my company and attention then I feel she will be more sincere in her attention to me.
 
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I'm a single guy so for me sex with an escort is practise for my next girlfriend. I would hate to get in the habit of being a selfish lover. No question in my mind it all has to be mutual.

But that said, it's about the journey not the destination. I am not fixated on orgasms as the be all and end all of sex. Not for me and not for my partner. As long as we're both having fun then it's a great punt in my view.

Although nothing makes me want to shoot my load more than seeing one of my regs cum and squirt all over my cock as they're so excited by whatever we're up to. :blush:
 
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I wasn't thinking of the escort NOT enjoying herself. Presumably we are all doing this because we love sex, and theres a word for having sex with someone who doesn't want to - I was more thinking of the mental attitude.

Besides, theres something nice about being used like slutty fuckmeat from time to time. A lot of what gets me off is about him using my body for his pleasure...

My question was more about whether you go in there thinking "I'm going to get a great service" or "I'm going to show her a good time" as reading this forum there's a lot more emphasis on our fun than expected and I thought there'd be a more blasé attitude to taking the chance to be selfish.

For example, one of my regulars sees me because sex is all about her with his girlfriend, and he likes to feel worshipped and spoiled when he sees me and enjoys an hour long blowjob if that is what he wants...

Is there more consideration for your fun as a service receiver or does it have to be totally mutual?
 
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I wasn't thinking of the escort NOT enjoying herself. Presumably we are all doing this because we love sex, and theres a word for having sex with someone who doesn't want to - I was more thinking of the mental attitude.

Besides, theres something nice about being used like slutty fuckmeat from time to time. A lot of what gets me off is about him using my body for his pleasure...

My question was more about whether you go in there thinking "I'm going to get a great service" or "I'm going to show her a good time" as reading this forum there's a lot more emphasis on our fun than expected and I thought there'd be a more blasé attitude to taking the chance to be selfish.

For example, one of my regulars sees me because sex is all about her with his girlfriend, and he likes to feel worshipped and spoiled when he sees me and enjoys an hour long blowjob if that is what he wants...

Is there more consideration for your fun as a service receiver or does it have to be totally mutual?

No...its mainly what i want considering the money im paying you.lets not kid ourselves?
 
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It's noticeable that the majority of the guys contributing on here agree that making sure that the meeting is a pleasurable experience for both parties is very important to them. For me giving a woman the pleasure of an orgasm through oral or penetration gives me a thrill almost equal to that of my own orgasm. In this respect I don't say anything different than I do on UKP, but on there I will get told that if you believe you give a WG an orgasm you are deluded. I just think it is probably not for all men and many want to spend their money solely on their own pleasure, and why not? I suspect that many of the UKP members who have signed up to UKE (and the majority of male members do still seem to have come from UKP) enjoy more of an interaction with WGs both virtual (i.e. through the threads on here) and in the bedroom, so the responses so far should perhaps come as no surprise and may not be representative of all men.

I love giving oral and I prefer to perform this before she gets her mouth around me. From a purely selfish point of view I do find that the services following this if the girl has climaxed are often performed with more passion (although this is not to say they won't be performed with enthusiasm if she hasn't) and I think that she is then much more likely to climax through penetration. For me this is the ultimate pleasure and if a woman enters a multi-orgasmic phase during sex that feeling is simply the best, and my own climax is pretty much ensured to coincide with one of the peaks of her waves of her climaxes. It's just one of those WOW! moments.

Just as an afterthought have any of the men noticed that some women have the female equivalent of Beer Goggles, but instead of being alcohol induced their judgment can be blurred following a climax? Cum Specs perhaps? Recently I was told by one WG who makes no secret of the fact that she really enjoys RO that I was "perfect"; those who have seen me in the flesh know this to be far from the case!
 
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I love to see a girl enjoying herself. If her pleasure didn't matter, I might as well buy a blowup doll or even cheaper, have a wank. I see it as two people having a fun couple of hours together, enjoying sex with each other, that just happens to have had money change hands.
 
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Absolutely crucial for me. If I don't think she's enjoying herself I don't really enjoy myself, it becomes like an elaborate and expensive wank if it's a one way street. I do get off on seeing a woman orgasm (and yes I think I can tell most of the time) and I also find that I get much more enthusiasm from her if she's into the session.

On UKP you'd get shot down for saying this but I think it makes perfect sense to make it mutually enjoyable.
+1 :hi:
 
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I love to see a girl enjoying herself. If her pleasure didn't matter, I might as well buy a blowup doll or even cheaper, have a wank. I see it as two people having a fun couple of hours together, enjoying sex with each other, that just happens to have had money change hands.

but remember, a lot of the time its an act, not a problem, but don't think its all a pleasure for her, she's doing it for money, if she's really into it then ask her for a freebie extension :lol:
 
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I am going to be the guy who says this, as I think this guy needs to come along. And that is any punter who thinks a WG is getting off during sex with them is pretty much deluding themselves.

I know this will result in a load of responses from WGs saying "I get off I promise you". But this is just like the age thread of "I never change my age". There is certain things WGs have to lie about and this is it. Read the very topic on Saafe about this if you don't believe me.

In terms of the booking. If I like the girl, I would rather the girl liked the other things than sex with me. There is nothing appealing about a guy pounding away to a girl, or at least there is nothing appealing about me doing it. But if the chat leading up to it and afterwards the girl enjoyed then this is what I want and am really happy occurs.
 
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I am going to be the guy who says this, as I think this guy needs to come along. And that is any punter who thinks a WG is getting off during sex with them is pretty much deluding themselves.

I know this will result in a load of responses from WGs saying "I get off I promise you". But this is just like the age thread of "I never change my age". There is certain things WGs have to lie about and this is it. Read the very topic on Saafe about this if you don't believe me.

In terms of the booking. If I like the girl, I would rather the girl liked the other things than sex with me. There is nothing appealing about a guy pounding away to a girl, or at least there is nothing appealing about me doing it. But if the chat leading up to it and afterwards the girl enjoyed then this is what I want and am really happy occurs.

totally agree AG as my post above yours, and yes you will get the usual suspects coming on saying "i love my sex" , ermm well i challenge them to let me have some of it free with you, im decent all round and we'll have fun, however i guess that will be shot down, keep it to a business arrangement and put the effort into it but please don't keep saying you need her to be into it as well as like ive said in truth its all an act.
 
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I am going to be the guy who says this, as I think this guy needs to come along. And that is any punter who thinks a WG is getting off during sex with them is pretty much deluding themselves.

I know this will result in a load of responses from WGs saying "I get off I promise you". But this is just like the age thread of "I never change my age". There is certain things WGs have to lie about and this is it. Read the very topic on Saafe about this if you don't believe me.

In terms of the booking. If I like the girl, I would rather the girl liked the other things than sex with me. There is nothing appealing about a guy pounding away to a girl, or at least there is nothing appealing about me doing it. But if the chat leading up to it and afterwards the girl enjoyed then this is what I want and am really happy occurs.
I agree though have no doubt some WGs to get off with some punters sometimes. But yes there is some delusion going on with some punters on this in my view. I also disagree with the view that a punter can tell for definite that a WG has orgasmed, some are really great actresses as I know.

Anyway as I posted I an bothered about myself in the main but if a WG really does orgasm which is very unlikely thats just fine
 
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I am going to be the guy who says this, as I think this guy needs to come along. And that is any punter who thinks a WG is getting off during sex with them is pretty much deluding themselves..
You see, here we go again! Two camps, one thinking that the other is deluded and the other thinking that the others must be crap in the bedroom.

Of course the only person who can give you a definitive answer is the girl herself, but I can't see any girl coming on here saying, "yes, I always fake it and never orgasm with a client", and those that say they do, you will just see as an extension of telling the client what they want to hear. So unless WGs can post anonymously we will never get an answer to this on UKE. A current thread on UKE asking if WGs fake orgasms has of course got the expected response, and could you really expect a WG to say otherwise on a public forum? It may be true, it may not, there's no way of telling.

SAAFE might be a more reliable source, and you will find on there that some girls say that they climax with some clients. We can only write from our own experience and perhaps the very few WGs that will talk absolutely honestly to some of us, but to claim that any client who claims to bring a WG to climax is deluded is merely your opinion as I can't see how you can back it up with evidence.
 
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