How do you "be rough with a girl"

Do you like it rough


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#1
Not being a monster, I often get the urge and permission from a WG to be rough with her. But when it comes to the crunch I cannot follow through (no not Hard sports) with the session. Either I have not met the right girl or I am not cut out for it. :(
It is something I want to do and I am keen to take advice for punters or WG's.
What is it I want to do, I don't know...
Spanking, nipple play (abuse) face fucking (covered in other topic) fisting, candle wax play, verbal abuse, face slapping, hair pulling

I have done a some of the above in my private and punting life.

Come on help.... ;)

Raddy
 
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#2
Not being a monster, I often get the urge and permission from a WG to be rough with her. But when it comes to the crunch I cannot follow through (no not Hard sports) with the session. Either I have not met the right girl or I am not cut out for it. :(
It is something I want to do and I am keen to take advice for punters or WG's.
What is it I want to do, I don't know...
Spanking, nipple play (abuse) face fucking (covered in other topic) fisting, candle wax play, verbal abuse, face slapping, hair pulling

I have done a some of the above in my private and punting life.

Come on help.... ;)

Raddy
As I'm a bit on the "vanilla" side, I can't really help you with this question, Raddy :(.
Turning it around a bit, I sometimes feel rather inadequate when she says things like "faster, deeper, harder", when I'm already going as fast, deep and hard as my poor old body and short little chap will allow me to :scare:.
 
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#4
That is my issue, yes I am keen to be rough... then I start respecting the girl.. I absolutely don't mean that in a disrespectful way
I think I need a girl to absolutely lead me and tell me to forget the fact I might like her... Obviously safe words and all that come into play
 
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#5
Depended entirely on the girl and how well we knew each other. I always liked it very rough, but would be loathe to just go into that mode with a newbie even if she said it was something she liked..I'd maybe go to 50% in that case and watch her body language and responses VERY carefully before increasing the intensity.
 
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#6
I'm more for a vanilla GFE but have been encouraged to spank or pull hair. I'm just not comfortable doing it as I'm not exactly small and subtle.

Doing anything pain related to someone half my size goes against every instinct in my body. Not that I'd be averse to trying if I was confident I wouldn't hurt the girl a bit too much, and that's the problem I have with it.
 
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#7
I am probably too wimpy for rough play.

Most adventurous I have got is to grab a WG by the arms, spin her around and bend her over her bedside drawer to take her doggy. This was with her consent.

TBH she was quite tall and athletic so in 'real life' she could have easily overpowered me instead :)
 
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#8
Not for me at all. Vigorous yes - I enjoy a really hard fuck, but rough? No. I had enough trouble bringing myself to spank a girl even though I knew she was into it.

tcm
 
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#9
Not something I'm usually into....but have had a few wg's asking me to be rough with them which I wasn't overly comfortable.

I remember one who wanted to be spanked whilst in doggy....I gave a short sharp smack which I thought was quite hard....."NO! HARDER!!!" she moaned...so I complied...or so I thought......."HARDER....HIT ME HARDER!" she screamed.....I did...once....the noise was so loud, and we were in rather a posh hotel I didn't want to continue down that path and have concerned guests / staff banging on the door! :)
 
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#11
I prefer the gentle side to bookings however in the right frame of mind I am not adverse to a bit of spanking or hair pulling. Men will also know though as when I am that turned on I will growl at them to spank me or pull my hair. what I don't like are those few who think being rough means having you in doggy and pressing hard on your lower back bending the spine. Its not rough its just painful. I also don't like to be bitten or slapped. I remember out of nowhere one guy thought it ok to slap my boobs really hard and then complain when I did the same thing to his cock immediately after.
 
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#12
I'm not. End of.

Except a lovely lass in Cardiff who told me to spank her to see the 'ripples'. I was mesmerised so I've added this to my likes list.
 
#14
With the right girl and when a level of trust has been built it can be very erotic, but I would say you have to be very observant to the girls reaction and enjoyment level. Get it right and it can be an added dimension for both of you. As a starter you could try pulling her hair in doggie as you pound her harder, a few slaps on the arse, i also like to control the kissing by holding their hair and pulling them away halfway through a deep kiss and than bringing them back in closer. Pushed up against the wall and confining the girl with you body as you take her from behind can also get very charged. However watch how you partner is reacting and don't just charge straight in, built the level of roughness up gradually and then have some soft fun intimacy afterwards. That's what works for me Raddy
 
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#15
Not being a monster, I often get the urge and permission from a WG to be rough with her. But when it comes to the crunch I cannot follow through (no not Hard sports) with the session. Either I have not met the right girl or I am not cut out for it. :(
It is something I want to do and I am keen to take advice for punters or WG's.
What is it I want to do, I don't know...
Spanking, nipple play (abuse) face fucking (covered in other topic) fisting, candle wax play, verbal abuse, face slapping, hair pulling

I have done a some of the above in my private and punting life.

Come on help.... ;)

Raddy
Raddy, I'm glad you posted that.. I've always seen you as a bit of a seasoned punter elder of sorts, I feel very relieved :drinks:
 
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#20
Not being a monster, I often get the urge and permission from a WG to be rough with her. But when it comes to the crunch I cannot follow through What is it I want to do, I don't know...
Spanking, nipple play (abuse) face fucking (covered in other topic) fisting, candle wax play, verbal abuse, face slapping, hair pulling

Raddy
"Rough" is all relative. If you're vanilla as fuck then just some dirty talk will probably constitute rough sex. Or even grabbing her hips and fucking her hard in doggy vs regular missionary.

If you'd asked me when I started punting last year the above list would have constituted extreme rough sex. Now thanks to a few very understanding and encouraging ladies I have ticked all the above off my bucket list and enjoyed them all immensely.

As always, yesterdays frontier is today's old hat, so why not just set yourself one or two things to try in a session with a trusted regular, discuss the limits at length and then have at it? You'll have a blast once you get into it. Then there'll be something else to try, and something else. It breaks up the otherwise crushing boredom of punting I find. ;):lol:
 
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#23
Good advice. I still have faint markings on my back from a wax play session that was over 4 months ago.
I blame a certain naughty madam for that.
Good girl, Lindsey.

You other two, aargh! You can make that work by increasing the height from which you let the wax fall, however, you are risking burns and scarring if you get it wrong.

Please play safe girls.
 
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#33
I had a girl come to mine some years ago, we'd made contact on 'Virgin Chat' (anyone remember the Virgin chat rooms?). She told me liked it rough especially having her hair pulled, so when she was being fucked doggy style I felt good that I had hold of her pony tail and as we fucked I kept her head pulled back by her hair. I wasn't yanking it, just kept a good steady pressure that brought her head back as I thrusted forward.

I'm not the dom type, so was well pleased to have had the chance to practice with a girl who knew what she wanted and told me just how to do it. After we'd finished up and were relaxing I felt great, done something I hadn't before and felt I'd mastered a new technique.

Then when I asked the 'how was it for you' question, she told me I'd pulled her hair a bit too much and it was too rough and she didn't enjoy it! Oh fuck, in an instant I went from feeling I'd done a good job being able to be a bit 'rougher' to feeling like an abuser, totally mortified. How could I have got it so wrong.

I've never tried to be 'rough' since.
 
#35
I had a girl come to mine some years ago, we'd made contact on 'Virgin Chat' (anyone remember the Virgin chat rooms?). She told me liked it rough especially having her hair pulled, so when she was being fucked doggy style I felt good that I had hold of her pony tail and as we fucked I kept her head pulled back by her hair. I wasn't yanking it, just kept a good steady pressure that brought her head back as I thrusted forward.

I'm not the dom type, so was well pleased to have had the chance to practice with a girl who knew what she wanted and told me just how to do it. After we'd finished up and were relaxing I felt great, done something I hadn't before and felt I'd mastered a new technique.

Then when I asked the 'how was it for you' question, she told me I'd pulled her hair a bit too much and it was too rough and she didn't enjoy it! Oh fuck, in an instant I went from feeling I'd done a good job being able to be a bit 'rougher' to feeling like an abuser, totally mortified. How could I have got it so wrong.

I've never tried to be 'rough' since.
I can understand your situation. I am in a somewhat similar position. I was once unintentionally too 'rough' with an escort who I respect & admire and I was mortified to know she didn't like some aspects of it. I felt very apologetic as it was never my intention and have since taken her constructive criticism/feedback on board and feel like a reformed punter. I sincerely hope she would give me the opportunity to meet & make it up to her.
 
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