Feedback.

Hi, if a punter asked for honest feedback on his performance, would you give it?

  • Hell, yes!

  • No, I'd lie so as not to hurt punters' sensitive feelings!

  • Say nothing!


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#2
It needs another part as in tell him if you thought he really wanted to know so could learn to improve and could take the truth. I see a lot of very inexperienced men and need to see what they do in order to help them improve. In these cases I always tell the truth as they come to me to learn so when they do have civvy sex they are not fumbling around and getting it badly wrong and put women off
 
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#3
I'm confident I'm pretty good now (I've had enough practice!). However, there is always more to learn. Although it can be difficult to hear at the time, I value hearing when I'm not doing something quite right: it's great to learn something new and improve.

Apart from anything else, every woman (and indeed every man) is different: what works for one won't necessarily work for another. Going slightly off topic this leads to my number one rule: pay attention.
 
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#4
I didnt vote because there are two possibilities

Nice guy who was a bit below par, no, I wouldnt be entirely honest because I would want to protect his feelings, I MIGHT hint something for eg "was fabulous but next time start of more gently with your tongue" obviously depending on what the issue was that would change, but any advice I would give would be gentle advice. If he looked like he really was low in confidence though no, no way, I would lie through my teeth rather than let him walk out destroyed because a few wrongly placed words CAN destroy someones already fragile confidence and not knowing someone that well...how would you know how to chose your words correctly to not make him feel awful

Arrogant cocky sod who was a bit below par, yes, Id tell him because no doubt he wouldnt be asking me what I thought about his performance he would in fact be telling me how amazing I found his performance, sometimes people need to be put back in touch with reality a bit...for their own good, still, I wouldnt be cruel about it because the arrogance may be a cover for lacking in confidence a bit, I leave cruel unnecessary character assasinations to those who need it to boost their own egos, I dont need to do that to someone to make myself feel good, being cruel would make me feel like an utter piece of shite.
 
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#5
I've been practising since I was 14 (4 decades ago) and I wouldn't be arrogant enough to say I was pretty good, there is always something to learn from a new partner, so I would appreciate any honest feedback that made the session more enjoyable for both of us.
 
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I've been practising since I was 14 (4 decades ago) and I wouldn't be arrogant enough to say I was pretty good, there is always something to learn from a new partner, so I would appreciate any honest feedback that made the session more enjoyable for both of us.
Well said - better than mine. A moment of hubris, perhaps?

I'm tempted to delete my previous post, but I said it so I'll leave it up.
 
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Well said - better than mine. A moment of hubris, perhaps?

I'm tempted to delete my previous post, but I said it so I'll leave it up.
No it's what you thought at the time, and in most other things people think I'm an arrogant twat because I come across as very confident. So don't be ashamed of a bit of hubris.
 
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#10
I'm confident I'm pretty good now (I've had enough practice!). However, there is always more to learn. Although it can be difficult to hear at the time, I value hearing when I'm not doing something quite right: it's great to learn something new and improve.

Apart from anything else, every woman (and indeed every man) is different: what works for one won't necessarily work for another. Going slightly off topic this leads to my number one rule: pay attention.
You mean that comment up there, why delete it, there is nothing wrong with it. People should have confidence in themselves, dont be ashamed to be confident in yourself, there is a huge difference between confident and arrogant, you didnt come over as arrogant at all
Well said - better than mine. A moment of hubris, perhaps?

I'm tempted to delete my previous post, but I said it so I'll leave it up.
 
#12
All your helpful suggestions came too late to edit my original post! See there's a lot of psychology / reverse psychology at work here. I have my favourites, and I hope they enjoy me as much as I enjoy them! :cool:
 
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#13
The thing is, we are selling a fantasy. Why should we ruin that? If they wanted genuine pointers that is one thing, but that is as far as my honesty would go. You guys should be allowed to pretend you are the perfect lover even if you aren't, that's the whole point of it.
 
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Most of the time, perhaps, but don't some guys come along hoping to get more experienced?
It hasn't happened with me yet. But like I said, if a guy wanted genuine pointers I'd be happy to help. But I would never be critical as that's not what it's about, they're paying good money for an experience.
 
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#16
If there is any particular area or technique I am worried or unsure of I ask for feedback and any suggestions on how I could do things differently whilst I am actually doing it so that I can receive some tuition.I think focusing on one point is a lot more constructive that a general question along the lines of ' I'm a great shag, right ? '.

I would also only ask about things where the feedback could be used to improve things.I would never , for example , ask if someone though I was good looking.

For me attitude and chemistry are more important than out of out sexual technique and prowess anyway.
 
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If there is any particular area or technique I am worried or unsure of I ask for feedback and any suggestions on how I could do things differently whilst I am actually doing it so that I can receive some tuition.
I keep meaning to do that but then always back out of it.
 
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I would never , for example , ask if someone though I was good looking
Yes do that and what's anybody going to say that doesn't want to offend you.

Anyway I only need to look in a mirror to see how ugly I am, I definatley don't need confirmation on that from anyone.
 
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I've only seen three women and with each one I began to feel a little more relaxed and a tiny bit more confident but with the last two meets I did ask both ladies for guidance and tips if I could improve or do things better. I would much prefer someone to guide me in the right direction like that with sensitivity so I can learn and enjoy and hopefully the lady can enjoy. When it comes time to meet some lovely ladies from this forum hopefully I'd be starting on a much better footing as we are getting to know each other. Hope that makes sense?!! Like with everything in life there's always a right and wrong way to do things!
 
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#23
I'm not sure that my performance is worthy of comment, but more how I behaved. Hygiene and manners have been mentioned often in other threads, but it's always helpful getting feedback if, for instance, I am fingering a bit to enthusiastically, or doing anything else that makes the girl a little uncomfortable.
 
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#24
I would give gentle pointers if asked but I wouldn't do a full-blown critique of the performance.

The thing is, even if we think someone wasnt all that in the sack, perhaps they just werent all that with us, with someone else and a bit of chemistry they may be an entirely different shag
This is very true. If there's no chemistry between two individuals then they probably both feel underwhelmed, pair each of them up with other partners and suddenly it's a different story.
 
#25
The problem with asking for feedback is that different escorts will like different techniques.

If you're seeing the same girl regularly then by all means find out what will make the booking better for both of you. But if you see different girls often then feedback on techniques may not be as useful as you hope it would. No harm in general pointers though.
 
#26
I let them know politely :) I once had someone bluntly say to me "I'm paying for your honesty", so I explained to him that his fingering technique didn't do a lot for me, and I think he was glad for the constructive criticism. I wouldn't ever be rude about it, but if you let someone know "mm I'd really like it if you did it this way" or "ow, can we try another angle?" and of course "yes, that's really good, please don't stop!" then it will be more enjoyable for both of you and hopefully for anyone they sleep with in the future. I know a few clients do effectively use us as "practice" for civvie girls, so I find it helps to let them know what works and what doesn't. If at the end of the day they continue to do it their way regardless, hopefully it's good for them anyway! They don't have to say "yes" when you ask if they fancy trying something else!
 
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I let them know politely :) I once had someone bluntly say to me "I'm paying for your honesty", so I explained to him that his fingering technique didn't do a lot for me, and I think he was glad for the constructive criticism. I wouldn't ever be rude about it, but if you let someone know "mm I'd really like it if you did it this way" or "ow, can we try another angle?" and of course "yes, that's really good, please don't stop!" then it will be more enjoyable for both of you and hopefully for anyone they sleep with in the future. I know a few clients do effectively use us as "practice" for civvie girls, so I find it helps to let them know what works and what doesn't. If at the end of the day they continue to do it their way regardless, hopefully it's good for them anyway! They don't have to say "yes" when you ask if they fancy trying something else!
I'd much rather honesty (except "I'd rather be watching East Enders") I get at least as much satisfaction from the girls enjoyment as my own (though I know not all men will see it that way)
 
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#28
I've given feedback to girls and have gotten it back without asking to be fair I never knew we punters had it on AW there is only one on mine that I felt iffy on never returned to see the girl again as I felt she just wanted me back for the money side of it if that makes sense
 
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#29
Whilst it is always nice to have unprompted feedback, which may or may not be true, I certainly wouldn't want to elicit open criticism from a girl, although I would be happy to receive guidance from her as to how I could increase her pleasure. Besides, is a girl really going to risk her future income by being brutally honest about your performance? I also feel that there is a danger that this question might come over as more than a touch arrogant if a punter posed this question at the end of a meet and I would expect that most girls would think that it has been asked so that he can hear from her how good he was in the sack, so much better than her other clients.
 
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#30
I think honest but polite critique can be good. if I was giving a BJ I would prefer the guy say "a bit slower" or "a bit faster", "not so deep" "harder" etc so that he enjoy it and I do the same in return. I would never tell someone they were crap at something but I might advise them to move a bit higher or be a bit softer or harder or for those that use their fingers to dig for gold (many many do) I will explain that that only causes pain and a scratched cervix. I believe in being honest if I think the person can take it as I wont tell someone they were fantastic if they don't have a clue and I am their first as it wouldn't be fair on them as they come to me to learn . However there are ways of being honest without hurting someones pride or feelings and that is the major point. You can tell someone in a nice helpful way or you can destroy what confidence they have. I'm sure we would all be happy to hear the words "I prefer it like this" over this "God you are crap at this, do it this way instead" Its all in how you say it.
 
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#31
I was asked for feedback on a booking when we were in the midst of putting our clothes back on. And as I was just about to say honestly, that I'd had a really great time, the bloke interrupted and started spouting off about how whatever I said was prompted from being paid to lie. Kinda ruined the whole encounter for me. I try to be kind when asking someone to not be so rough - this is a common occurrence when it comes to oral or hands, for whatever reason men seem to think we're all made of steel down there. However, not everyone takes on board what you say.

A lot of people like to project their hang-ups onto you. So I take what is said to me during bookings with a large pinch of salt and I expect it works both ways.
 
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#33
The problem with asking for feedback is that different escorts will like different techniques.

If you're seeing the same girl regularly then by all means find out what will make the booking better for both of you. But if you see different girls often then feedback on techniques may not be as useful as you hope it would. No harm in general pointers though.
Agreed

I like a bit of feedback, but mainly while in the act -"slower, gentler, harder" that sort of thing. But unless you are seeing someone more than once, it probably isn't worth it, as everyone is different.

With my previous relationships, my oral/foreplay technique has been described anywhere from "awesome" to "was ok". But then you find the way it works for them over time
 
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