Dad Bod or 6 pack?

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Firstly must say I'm loving it on here. What a nice interesting bunch of people we are!

Question is as follows: Having managed to shift about 3 stone in weight mostly through diet rehabilitation, and although now feeling a lot better about myself, I'd probably describe myself as the former (Dad Bod certainly no 6 pack here), I'm wondering if I should hit the gym?

Recent news reports indicated that women prefer the Dad Bod to the 6 pack, which I struggle to comprehend. This was further supported when a girl I saw recently admitted she had the hots for a client who was obviously a gym goer. She went a bit gooey really. So I'm sure he gets more body worship than us lard arses.

So girls, do you indeed prefer the Dad Bod, or do toned bods and muscles do it for you?

Guys have any of you seen a change in service after buffing up??

Just wondering whether I would see some payback??

Thanks

GN
 
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Firstly must say I'm loving it on here. What a nice interesting bunch of people we are!

Question is as follows: Having managed to shift about 3 stone in weight mostly through diet rehabilitation, and although now feeling a lot better about myself, I'd probably describe myself as the former (Dad Bod certainly no 6 pack here), I'm wondering if I should hit the gym?

Recent news reports indicated that women prefer the Dad Bod to the 6 pack, which I struggle to comprehend. This was further supported when a girl I saw recently admitted she had the hots for a client who was obviously a gym goer. She went a bit gooey really. So I'm sure he gets more body worship than us lard arses.

So girls, do you indeed prefer the Dad Bod, or do toned bods and muscles do it for you?

Guys have any of you seen a change in service after buffing up??

Just wondering whether I would see some payback??

Thanks

GN
A good WG offers a good service to ALL her punters as long as they are clean, respectful, on time and with the agreed money. Punting isn't dating so what I look like should be neither here nor there. Now whether punters some WGs find attractive get a better service that's for them to answer of course.

As to me, I look like the elephant mans uglier older brother.
 
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Absolute minefield OH. Goes to the heart of the business.

Old fatties punt for very different reasons to hot studs.

Wgs prefer a type based on a business decision not looks.

Very subjective but this is the view I have been told.
 
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I'm struggling back to fitness after a couple of years of being too busy or tired to keep up with it.

I certainly find that girls comment on physique when you're fit. In small ways, usually, but I always found it a boost to the ego.

I can't say that I've noticed much difference in service levels though - except in one or two odd cases where it was clear that the girl in question was really in to fit bodies.

You should see a big benefit to your stamina and libido though. That's worth getting 'punting fit' for.
 
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I'm struggling back to fitness after a couple of years of being too busy or tired to keep up with it.

I certainly find that girls comment on physique when you're fit. In small ways, usually, but I always found it a boost to the ego.

I can't say that I've noticed much difference in service levels though - except in one or two odd cases where it was clear that the girl in question was really in to fit bodies.

You should see a big benefit to your stamina and libido though. That's worth getting 'punting fit' for.
Exactly the sort of feedback I was hoping for.

Thanks! :hi:
 
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Absolute minefield OH. Goes to the heart of the business.

Old fatties punt for very different reasons to hot studs.

Wgs prefer a type based on a business decision not looks.

Very subjective but this is the view I have been told.
Appreciate it is potentially a very touchy subject with absolutely no right or wrong answers.

There are some opinions on SAAFE which clearly support what I suggest, but in this open honest environment wondered how accurate that might be given the reports that girl apparently prefer the Dad Bod.

Inevitably the girls won't want to offend us lardies or indeed the hunks, but I would naturally expect them to prefer a nicely toned body. That wouldn't offend me at all as it's perfectly understandable and what I'd expect them to feel. Although my personal preference is for the curvier female form.

It might also encourage the larger guys to consider trying to lose some weight as I have managed to do.
 
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Not sure off the answer if im honest, although have dropped around 3 stone personally from what i was 5 years ago....
 
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GNut, at the risk of appearing obtuse - I suspect that you'd be happier making a decision based on your own priorities, ie. What makes you feel better.

Brief anecdote which may or may not help... a decade ago (early '40s, before I started punting) I had the pleasure of several young females. One in particular took a shining to my belly. I was horrified at my increased girth - which was a relatively new development - but she was adamant... she loved it. So, yeah - there's that paternal attraction. Have another beer :drinks:
When I first started with paid encounters late Dec last year, I quickly realised that I'd need to ramp up the yoga. Stamina was lacking :( Glad to say that's since been rectified.

Just like us, every female has their own criteria as to what constitutes an attractive male physique. Which is why I humbly suggest you go with what suits you :hi:
 
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Similar to me then. But did you lose it through pushing weights or calories cutting as I did?

A combination of at the time gym 4 nights a week and cutting eating rubbish out my diet, then kids came along and being a little careful on the diet and doing a manual job seems to keep it off..was just over 17stone at 1 point..... (gym membership stopped when kids came along..)

Still got a bit off a stomach but unfortunately thats in my genes if you look at other males in the family..
 
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GNut, at the risk of appearing obtuse - I suspect that you'd be happier making a decision based on your own priorities, ie. What makes you feel better.

Brief anecdote which may or may not help... a decade ago (early '40s, before I started punting) I had the pleasure of several young females. One in particular took a shining to my belly. I was horrified at my increased girth - which was a relatively new development - but she was adamant... she loved it. So, yeah - there's that paternal attraction. Have another beer :drinks:
When I first started with paid encounters late Dec last year, I quickly realised that I'd need to ramp up the yoga. Stamina was lacking :( Glad to say that's since been rectified.

Just like us, every female has their own criteria as to what constitutes an attractive male physique. Which is why I humbly suggest you go with what suits you :hi:
Nice post thanks. Definitely not obtuse at all. I agree that there are perhaps 2 elements. One is self confidence, the other is better performance, but both go hand in hand when it comes to enjoying the pleasure of a beautiful woman as we all do.
 
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GNut, at the risk of appearing obtuse - I suspect that you'd be happier making a decision based on your own priorities, ie. What makes you feel better.
I agree. Confidence is sexy - unless it becomes arrogance. Do what makes you feel confident.

On the diet and exercise issue: the fitness comes with exercise, so if you want the stamina thing I mentioned earlier you'll need to do some.

Recent research would suggest you might only need to do a few minutes of HIT (high intensity training) three times a week to get the benefit, though I wouldn't underestimate how hard it is to go at it as hard as you can for 20 - 30 secs three times (the third time's a bitch).
 
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I lost over 2 stone due to ill health. I make an effort to keep it off as I think I look better, and feel better about myself. Although there's a 6 pack in there somewhere, it's a bit hidden by 54 years of cakes and fudge :lol: although there is a bit of definition there.

I think it's a slightly unfair question to ask the girls because whereas we may well chose a girl based, partly at least, on what she looks like, I'm sure the majority of girls will see guys of all shapes and sizes, whether or not we are their Mr Perfect. That's why I love these girls so much, well most of them anyway :hi:
 
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A good WG offers a good service to ALL her punters as long as they are clean, respectful, on time and with the agreed money. Punting isn't dating so what I look like should be neither here nor there.
Absolutely true. Men's body types don't make a jot of difference except for cases where it has to be taken into account for safety/service aspects. There are always ways round any issues though.

In regards to personal preference, I definitely go for the "dad bod" though.
 
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I lost over 2 stone due to ill health. I make an effort to keep it off as I think I look better, and feel better about myself. Although there's a 6 pack in there somewhere, it's a bit hidden by 54 years of cakes and fudge :lol: although there is a bit of definition there.

I think it's a slightly unfair question to ask the girls because whereas we may well chose a girl based, partly at least, on what she looks like, I'm sure the majority of girls will see guys of all shapes and sizes, whether or not we are their Mr Perfect. That's why I love these girls so much, well most of them anyway :hi:
That's because WGs who punt with punters of all shapes and sizes know its punting not dating so being attracted to them isn't necessary, though it may be preferable to some or many.
 
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Much of this, of course, is down to what the media portrays as 'desirable'.

6-pack toned hunk? Well, not all females are impressed by this.
As a separate example, there's nothing more painful than seeing someone try to fit in to clothes that are intended for a much younger generation. Very few can carry it off, and that is down to self-confidence again.
Good point made by @keepitup regarding confidence vs arrogance. The latter should not be an option.

Also, there are other fitness options instead of committing yourself to the gym. Can get a decent aerobic workout from Pilates and it's much safer for the spine, or if anyone has back issues.
 
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Absolutely true. Men's body types don't make a jot of difference except for cases where it has to be taken into account for safety/service aspects. There are always ways round any issues though.

In regards to personal preference, I definitely go for the "dad bod" though.
Thanks Jess. First objective post from the girls.
 
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Honestly, things like personality and good hygiene rank much, much higher than physique. With being big myself I don't see extremely overweight men for practical reasons, but the sex and service is no different whether they have a six pack, a bit of a beer belly, or are slightly out of shape in general. The only impact being bigger might have is my not being able to do cowgirl, as I have short thighs and not very good balance!

Also, one of my regulars has an amazing Diet Coke body, but he also suffers from dysmorphology - he's always pointing out if his stomach is 1mm larger or he thinks his definition etc. is going. It's a bit sad, TBH.
 
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A good WG offers a good service to ALL her punters as long as they are clean, respectful, on time and with the agreed money. Punting isn't dating so what I look like should be neither here nor there. Now whether punters some WGs find attractive get a better service that's for them to answer of course.

As to me, I look like the elephant mans uglier older brother.
Absolutely Smiths.

I am a gym goer with an interest in a particular sport and as a result it is assumed that I am attracted to buff, 6 pack toting men. With regards to my service it is completely irrelevant, plus I am genuinely not particularly attracted to men within that sport, or any sport. My attraction comes from an individual package which I find very unpredictable.
I also resent the assumption that I 'must' like physically stacked or ripped guys. How on earth anyone can assume to know which physical properties I find appealing is beyond me, yet I regularly receive emails from men, usually outside my working hours, who want services I don't provide, or who cannot commit to a booking, telling me they are well hung (ok another topic) and 'fit' looking. Some even go as far to indicate that they think I'll see them on the basis of their looks.
 
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In my personal life I prefer neither of those. I like big cuddly men the 16stone minimum type guys. They make feel feel all girlie and safe. Work wise I prefer the clean body type. The one that is fresh but not overly spray in deodorant as it tastes awful
 
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I take everyone as they come in my WG life, we all have hang ups about our bodies and we all come as individuals. Of course it's worth it to look after yourself as it will pay dividend but i absolutely get that we all have 'life' stuff that stops us from going to the gym or means reaching for the chocolate. At least we are all works in progress. I say sure why not hit the gym thats a great idea to boost your mood and improve your body.
I look after my body and try to do the best I can. A good diet and exercise never hurt anyone... mostly.
 
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I'm on a bit of a 'get in shape' drive at the moment. I have a fairly sedentary job and because of that it is far too easy to slip into bad habits of eating the wrong stuff, not exercising enough etc. I got absolutely hooked on swimming a few years ago and remembered how great I felt as a result so now I have gone back to that plus I bought a cheap set of weights and a bench. I'm not trying to become the next Mr Universe but the weights do help with toning up certain areas. I admit that I am lucky because it doesn't take much effort for me to shed a bit of extra weight and start to look toned again. I've gone down a waist size in the last couple of months which is great apart from having to keep hitching my trousers up :D

The big motivating factor for me though is not trying to look 'buff' but it's more about stamina and being able to enjoy/get more out of bookings. I need to stop smoking AND keep up the exercise so that I don't have to keep stopping for a breather when I am going for it in doggie :timeout:. It is also a great confidence boost when you look in the mirror and start to see the beer belly disappearing too. I started the exercise before my first punt and I must admit it did make me grin when in my first booking the girl took off my shirt and said 'ooh, you have muscles! :wackogirl:' She couldn't leave them alone which was a great ego boost. As far as girls go I guess I do have a preferred body type but it ranks pretty low on my list of important factors. There are women of all body types that I find insanely attractive and the top of the list for me is a sexy smile. That gets me every time.
 
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I'm on a bit of a 'get in shape' drive at the moment. I have a fairly sedentary job and because of that it is far too easy to slip into bad habits of eating the wrong stuff, not exercising enough etc. I got absolutely hooked on swimming a few years ago and remembered how great I felt as a result so now I have gone back to that plus I bought a cheap set of weights and a bench. I'm not trying to become the next Mr Universe but the weights do help with toning up certain areas. I admit that I am lucky because it doesn't take much effort for me to shed a bit of extra weight and start to look toned again. I've gone down a waist size in the last couple of months which is great apart from having to keep hitching my trousers up :D

The big motivating factor for me though is not trying to look 'buff' but it's more about stamina and being able to enjoy/get more out of bookings. I need to stop smoking AND keep up the exercise so that I don't have to keep stopping for a breather when I am going for it in doggie :timeout:. It is also a great confidence boost when you look in the mirror and start to see the beer belly disappearing too. I started the exercise before my first punt and I must admit it did make me grin when in my first booking the girl took off my shirt and said 'ooh, you have muscles! :wackogirl:' She couldn't leave them alone which was a great ego boost. As far as girls go I guess I do have a preferred body type but it ranks pretty low on my list of important factors. There are women of all body types that I find insanely attractive and the top of the list for me is a sexy smile. That gets me every time.
Being able to co-ordinate and 'hold' your own body without being a deadweight, I'd say is much more important during sex than actual body shape.
 
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Dad bod? I wish! Grandad bod more like :scare:

I've been on a bit of a health kick recently just to build up a little more core strength as I have occasional back problems but I do tend to keep quite active anyway. Managed to drop a waist size and have about 7lbs to get to the best weight I'm ever going to manage - I've long since given up on the idea of a 6 pack!
 
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Smiths is absolutely right in that from a working point of view it shouldn't / doesn't matter.

ChilternLine adds the extra important factors, personality and hygiene.

I might add attitude and politeness, maybe someone already did?

I would never attempt to second guess what any woman finds attractive, there are too many variables.

As for me, I never can tell what kind of woman I will find attractive but it rarely has much to do with physical appearance.
 
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The topic of being 'fit to punt' has been covered once or twice on UKP, as has having a heart attack on the job!! (xref Medical Emergency thread here on UKE)
There is no question that I enjoy sex more if I'm feeling fit and healthy and my staying power is improved with fitness.
When I'm carrying a few extra pounds I have thought mid-way 'OMFG I'm knackered, time to get this finished' - which is a very poor state of affairs when you've paid to enjoy yourself!!
:rolleyes:
 
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Re. Hank's post, I'd definitely second stopping smoking. It really hampers your cardiovascular fitness, which of course includes your erectile function, as well as the ash tray breath.
All the reasons I want to quit plus the added benefit of having more punting money :yahoo: An extra couple of bookings a month for me or a chance to save for a few of those epic bucket list bookings :thumbsup:
 
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Re. Hank's post, I'd definitely second stopping smoking. It really hampers your cardiovascular fitness, which of course includes your erectile function, as well as the ash tray breath.
I too packed in smoking many years ago, but the upshot was an additional 40 lbs of weight as I took up eating to replace the fags.

I'm glad I packed in but it's taken me many years to realise I needed to shift the weight and how grotesque I actually looked.

I'd become quite a recluse with pretty low self esteem and certainly not have dreamed of punting in the state I was in. I had bigger tits than the missus. Glad to say that in the last year I'm now a similar size to when I was in my thirties, but am not as toned, hence the original post and the question of whether or not to start trying to tone up and regain some of the muscle I used to have.
 
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I'm not especially bothered with the appearance side of being a slob.With punting it is an irrelevance to me whether the escort finds me in any way physically attractive ; just as well.I try my best to be polite and friendly and would hope they thought I was a decent enough bloke .

The problems for me are to do with my low level of fitness.I struggle in any positions other than woman on top , missionary feels like trying to force out reps in a gym or something ; cannot make double figures ! Sure I would get a lot more out of bookings if I was able to make some improvement in this area.
 
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The mrs has started slimming world in last few months and i have started eating some of the same meals as her and i must say some off them are very tasty indeed and if im honest the amount of stuff you can eat sin free you have no need to go hungry.....
 
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I started swimming fairly long distances. I enjoy my punts more as a result.

Benefits;
1. breathing control - very important for not finishing too early
2. stamina
3. round 2 and three
4. breathing control - great for prolonged RO
5. Power and quantity of "man sauce"
 
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All the reasons I want to quit plus the added benefit of having more punting money :yahoo: An extra couple of bookings a month for me or a chance to save for a few of those epic bucket list bookings :thumbsup:
I agree entirely I really need to give up the smokes, waste of money and I am nowhere as fit as when I was in my prime...
I used to do multiple sports when I was younger and did have a 6 pack, but that seems so long ago now...
 
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I think we're getting a really good range of balanced arguments on both side here so far, pretty much as I hoped and expected but there does seem to be a strong argument for getting in shape mainly for the benefit of stamina and staying power and less for the benefit of being more appreciated physically.

Appreciate your comments so far!

GN
 
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For WG's it's a job and nothing more so whilst they may well have preferences in real-life, I doubt too many will say they prefer punters with this body or that body - wouldn't be too good for business.

As I lost over 3 stone around the time I started punting (last year), what I will say is do it for yourself and nobody else. I feel 10 years younger, look a lot better and feel really well in myself. I reduced alcohol consumption dramatically, changed my diet completely and stopped smoking for a period. I've kept the weight off, what was my diet is now my normal eating habit and whilst I had a lapse with the ciggies, I've now (finally) broken the spell they had over me. And I fuck lots of different women who are all gorgeous in their own way - and I do like variety. Life's good!

Even more amazing was that an attractive milfy type actually made a pass at me a couple of weeks back. That hadn't happened in a very, very long time and was obviously an ego boost - I didn't take her up on her offer as I have no interest in another relationship.

tcm
 
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I think we're getting a really good range of balanced arguments on both side here so far, pretty much as I hoped and expected but there does seem to be a strong argument for getting in shape mainly for the benefit of stamina and staying power and less for the benefit of being more appreciated physically.

Appreciate your comments so far!

GN
That's it in a nutshell for me. Do it for yourself (self confident, general health, stamina and performance when punting ;)). If the WGs you see like the new improved you even more then that's a bonus :thumbsup:
 
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I quite like a 'dad bod', often find the dad bods which walk through my door are clean, nice smelling aftershave, took the time to cut and clean their fingernails etc, I do notice and appreciate the little efforts like that :) and in the room, it's lights on and clothes off and no worrying about imperfections (for both of us!), just down to the fun stuff xxx
 
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I quite like a 'dad bod', often find the dad bods which walk through my door are clean, nice smelling aftershave, took the time to cut and clean their fingernails etc, I do notice and appreciate the little efforts like that :) and in the room, it's lights on and clothes off and no worrying about imperfections (for both of us!), just down to the fun stuff xxx
Now that is a good answer! Thank you Scarlett! :kiss:
 
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