Can escorting ever lead to dating?

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Is a dating relationship between a WG and her client possible or will Jealousy always get in the way?
 
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I do not think it's good to mix both in my opinion. I like to date civvy guys and have a dating life away from escorting because my life is NOT escorting. I have a regular job and this is a part time thing. I like to be myself and i think if someone met me in my day to day life my real personality would come out more. I'd gather escort client dating could be all based on sex.
 
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I know it's possible as have witnessed it. Not first hand though so I can't comment on how successful the relationships are behind closed doors
 
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As long as there's no jealousy from either side then anything is possible but whether it lasts is a different issue (lasts in the sense of engagement, marriage, children).
 
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If both sides are honest then if the love is there it will work.. I plan to quit escorting in 2 years and buy sx business then settle and get married .he knows im in this game to save for my future...
 
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Yep I've been in a relationship.with a client for almost 2 years.....
If it is ok to ask a personal question Rebecca, did this cause any issues with regard to the equality of the relationship ? For example when I am in a relationship, I like to feel that she is as into me as I am into her. If for the sake of argument my gf was an escort who I had met as a client, I would feel that there would be a difficult imbalance in the relationship, as my previous position as a paying client would create the perception that I was more interested than she was. I must stress that I am not saying that that is the reality of your own relationship, I'm just wondering how I would see things in a similar position and how it works for you. If it is too personal, feel free not to answer, and I apologise in advance if you see this as intrusive.
 
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In another life if I were single, then yes I could have seen it happening very easily, attracted to the person and great sex. Magic combination.
 
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I could see it leading to all sorts of trust issues from both sides...he found you punting, so how do you know he isn't still punting on the sly?...You've lost any sexual inhibitions as you have been used to dropping your knickers for strangers for cash, how does he trust you out of his sight?

I reckon it would have to be a fully open relationship where you were totally honest about any external liaisons and were both happy about it...of course it's going to be a lot easier for a woman to pick up a guy for casual sex than the other way round, the guy would no doubt have to pay unless he was an Adonis.

I've heard of some very lop-sided arrangements where the WG continues seeing clients, she reasons she's not being unfaithful because she's 'working', but she expects her BF to remain faithful to her, after all, he's getting 'freebies'. This always smacks of an unhealthy power-play relationship where the woman wants to exert her power over a cuckold, perhaps to counteract the lack of empowerment she senses from her 'working' encounters where her job is to please the client. :bomb:
 
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If I won the Lotto or Euromillions ( fat chance :( ), I would pay my favorite enough for her to be able to quit the industry and see only me :D !
 

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If I won the Lotto or Euromillions ( fat chance :( ), I would pay my favorite enough for her to be able to quit the industry and see only me :D !
But would you see only her? And how would you know she wasn't seeing anyone else behind your back? :unknown:
 
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Yes it can, its happened numerous times. Didnt work for me but then he was a bit of an arsehole and my arsehole tolerance is low but sometimes takes a while to kick in...when it does though its there to stay
 
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I could see it leading to all sorts of trust issues from both sides...he found you punting, so how do you know he isn't still punting on the sly?...You've lost any sexual inhibitions as you have been used to dropping your knickers for strangers for cash, how does he trust you out of his sight?

I reckon it would have to be a fully open relationship where you were totally honest about any external liaisons and were both happy about it...of course it's going to be a lot easier for a woman to pick up a guy for casual sex than the other way round, the guy would no doubt have to pay unless he was an Adonis.

I've heard of some very lop-sided arrangements where the WG continues seeing clients, she reasons she's not being unfaithful because she's 'working', but she expects her BF to remain faithful to her, after all, he's getting 'freebies'. This always smacks of an unhealthy power-play relationship where the woman wants to exert her power over a cuckold, perhaps to counteract the lack of empowerment she senses from her 'working' encounters where her job is to please the client. :bomb:
Mr Strawberry decided without any suggestion from myself that he didn't want to have sex with anyone else. Around the same time I decided that I wouldn't have sex outside of work. That's how we came to an open and honest decision about our bounds and definition of 'faithful'.
 
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If I won the Lotto or Euromillions ( fat chance :( ), I would pay my favorite enough for her to be able to quit the industry and see only me :D !
The idea is enticing except I have no wish to own anyone!

I have no illusions that the women I see in front of me would look twice at me in the street (except to point and laugh!) :crazy: but I'll keep on dreaming
 
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I had a reasonably long term relationship with a regular which then became a "sugar daddy / sugar baby" arrangement. She wanted out of escorting and I wanted a reliable regular arrangement at a good price. I was able to cover her rent and other basic expenses so she didn't need to see other clients.

Despite the age difference we got very close. In the end the amount of money changing hands was minimal and she insisted it was dating and no longer an arrangement.

Won't go into all the details but in the end I decided that I needed to get out of there for my own sanity.

I do think a relationship between a client and escort can work - but only when she's genuinely ready to retire and live a regular life.

As others have said the dynamics with an active escort are messy to say the least.
 
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But would you see only her? And how would you know she wasn't seeing anyone else behind your back? :unknown:
And would she be happy with seeing you, I would guess that your visits would increase?
Good questions, Guys & Gals, to which I honestly don't know the answers :(.
It's such an unlikely scenario, that I haven't thought it through as fully as I maybe should have done.
Lovely idea though :D !
 
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How does anyone ever know that the other party isn't fucking someone else behind their back...let's face it, they don't. They assume, they hope, they believe but they can never KNOW ...


...unless they have 24hr surveillance
 
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The idea is enticing except I have no wish to own anyone!
I would have no intention at all of "owning her". An increased frequency of her coming to stay with me overnight ( or maybe even two or three nights on the trot :D - if I could stand the pace :lol: ), but other than that her time would be her own for her to pursue her other businesses and interests.
 
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How does anyone ever know that the other party isn't fucking someone else behind their back...let's face it, they don't. They assume, they hope, they believe but they can never KNOW ...


...unless they have 24hr surveillance
That's kinda the way things were for me when I was married. I'm sure she suspected that I played away ( for free in those long ago days :yahoo:), but never asked me outright about it and I think worked on the premise that "ignorance is bliss".
 

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Mr Strawberry decided without any suggestion from myself that he didn't want to have sex with anyone else. Around the same time I decided that I wouldn't have sex outside of work. That's how we came to an open and honest decision about our bounds and definition of 'faithful'.
I would contend that he sensed that there was no other option on the table if he wanted 'freebies' with you, so he mentally accepted this 'uneven' relationship where you have other partners and he does not...he is firmly cuckolded...I wouldn't dress it as anything else...but if it seems to work for you both...good luck! :hi:
 
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I would contend that he sensed that there was no other option on the table if he wanted 'freebies' with you, so he mentally accepted this 'uneven' relationship where you have other partners and he does not...he is firmly cuckolded...I wouldn't dress it as anything else...but if it seems to work for you both...good luck! :hi:
Not at all. We were already into the relationship, there was no suggestion from me on the table at all. I didn't actually even want a relationship, and just was happy to carry on in a casual arrangement between friends. Sex or 'freebies' weren't even a pivotal part of the relationship, and even until relatively recently I viewed the relationship(as he knew this) as a short term thing until I met someone else or decided to go it alone again. I'd become part of his life and he mine before we decided to move into becoming a couple. He still knows if he does want to have sex with anyone else, all he has to do is open the conversation. No pressure or expectation from me whatsoever.
 
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...until I met someone else or decided to go it alone again...
This is the bit where he decided to commit exclusively to this uneven relationship, he didn't want to lose what he had with you, knowing that you might drift elsewhere.

Of course, none of this was explicitly discussed, it all played out on a sub-conscious level.

I would suggest that if he seriously discussed him being allowed to seek pleasure away from home, you would be offended and he would soon be dumped. I would suggest you enjoy having him on a leash. :bomb:

I think this typifies a lot of WG/punter relationships...punter in awe of WG who is out of his league in civvie terms...she loves the power she has over a guy that isn't paying her...he must stay faithful to remain in her favour...it's often uneven.
 
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Maybe you are right and I just can't see it.

All I know is that it works, and that we talk on a very honest and open level. Guess we need to talk at a much deeper level and I need to have a look at what I do in relationships.

Thanks for pointing that out.
 
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I do know of WG-Punter relationships, none of them have succeeded, (Success = long term marriage and children).

At most, they last a few years before breaking up, mainly because of money. A successful WG, in London, at least, could very easily earn £1,000 a week while the top girls would be on £2,000 a week, or more. How is any guy going to be able to compensate her for her loss of earnings if he asks her to give up being a WG?

If he doesn't ask her to give it up and accepts that she'll continue to be a WG then he'll try to rationalise it as "I get to fuck her bareback for free so it's real, they have to pay and use a condom so what they do is not real".

He can keep it out of mind but he can't tell his mates what she does for the very simple reason that the so and sos will go behind his back and book her nor can he ever go on punter sites for fear of coming across reviews on her.

The power in that relationship lies with the WG with the guy having to accept he'll always be a cuckold.

Of course, some try an "open" relationship but where's the fidelity? It would take a man with an extraordinarily tolerant attitude to make it work and he'll always be afraid of not Society's, but his mates', derision.

It could only work if the WG was coming to the end of her career, gave up being a WG and did not miss the money that she had been earning so that there'd be a more equitable power relationship between them.
 
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Maybe you are right and I just can't see it.

All I know is that it works, and that we talk on a very honest and open level. Guess we need to talk at a much deeper level and I need to have a look at what I do in relationships.

Thanks for pointing that out.
The whole relationship dynamic is surely individual to every relationship, if it works for you both, then enjoy :yahoo:

Being a fluffy kind of chap I just like to think that people are happy in themselves
 

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Maybe you are right and I just can't see it.

All I know is that it works, and that we talk on a very honest and open level. Guess we need to talk at a much deeper level and I need to have a look at what I do in relationships.

Thanks for pointing that out.
I feel bad about pouring cold water on something that you feel works...apologies for that...but glad it got you thinking...good luck! :)
 

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I do know of WG-Punter relationships, none of them have succeeded, (Success = long term marriage and children).

At most, they last a few years before breaking up, mainly because of money. A successful WG, in London, at least, could very easily earn £1,000 a week while the top girls would be on £2,000 a week, or more. How is any guy going to be able to compensate her for her loss of earnings if he asks her to give up being a WG?

If he doesn't ask her to give it up and accepts that she'll continue to be a WG then he'll try to rationalise it as "I get to fuck her bareback for free so it's real, they have to pay and use a condom so what they do is not real".

He can keep it out of mind but he can't tell his mates what she does for the very simple reason that the so and sos will go behind his back and book her nor can he ever go on punter sites for fear of coming across reviews on her.

The power in that relationship lies with the WG with the guy having to accept he'll always be a cuckold.

Of course, some try an "open" relationship but where's the fidelity? It would take a man with an extraordinarily tolerant attitude to make it work and he'll always be afraid of not Society's, but his mates', derision.

It could only work if the WG was coming to the end of her career, gave up being a WG and did not miss the money that she had been earning so that there'd be a more equitable power relationship between them.
Yep, exactly what I was trying to say earlier. +1
 
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I think it could only work for me if I somehow met an escort but not as her paying client, then we would both be on an even footing from the start. If she wanted to continue working, I would also want to be able to punt. I don't think it is a likely scenario though, as really, this is a very small percentage of the female population to randomly meet outside of punting.

I will also add for balance that in my second year of punting, I had a reg who had a boyfriend she met initially through her work and the uneven dynamics of the relationship seemed to favour him not her in their case. But either way, I see there are a lot of potential problems for both parties, so personally, once I have punted with an escort, I would rather keep things just as NSA fun and friendly.
 
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#48
I agree that nobody can ever fully trust their partner but a serial punter and a WG are off to a bad start. I don't know the stats but I would imagine most punters are married (wait for abuse) so they already cheat. Then we move on to the remoteness of this happening and we are into possible numbers that are so insignificant to be meaningless.

The WG is attractive because she is younger, fitter, filthier than "her indoors" or you use the services of a WG because you can't get / don't want a relationship.
The punter is "attractive" because he / she funds whatever life-style you want. It's a fantasy world that has no place in reality.

IMHO
 
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If it is ok to ask a personal question Rebecca, did this cause any issues with regard to the equality of the relationship ? For example when I am in a relationship, I like to feel that she is as into me as I am into her. If for the sake of argument my gf was an escort who I had met as a client, I would feel that there would be a difficult imbalance in the relationship, as my previous position as a paying client would create the perception that I was more interested than she was. I must stress that I am not saying that that is the reality of your own relationship, I'm just wondering how I would see things in a similar position and how it works for you. If it is too personal, feel free not to answer, and I apologise in advance if you see this as intrusive.

no issues we are both equal , he knows im having sex with other men so i have told him to have sex with who he wants , actually it turns me on !
 
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